Four in 10 say marriage is becoming obsolete

WASHINGTON – Is marriage becoming obsolete?

As families gather for Thanksgiving this year, nearly one in three American ******** is living with a parent who is divorced, separated or never-married. More people are accepting the view that wedding bells aren't needed to have a ******.

A study by the Pew Research Center, in association with Time magazine, highlights rapidly changing notions of the American ******. And the Census Bureau, too, is planning to incorporate broader definitions of ****** when measuring poverty, a shift caused partly by recent jumps in unmarried couples living together.

About 29 percent of ******** under 18 now live with a parent or parents who are unwed or no longer married, a fivefold increase from 1960, according to the Pew report being released Thursday. Broken down further, about 15 percent have parents who are divorced or separated and 14 percent who were never married. Within those two groups, a sizable chunk — 6 percent — have parents who are live-in couples who opted to raise **** together without getting married.

Indeed, about 39 percent of Americans said marriage was becoming obsolete. And that sentiment follows U.S. census data released in September that showed marriages hit an all-time low of 52 percent for adults 18 and over.

In 1978, just 28 percent believed marriage was becoming obsolete.

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When asked what constitutes a ******, the vast majority of Americans agree that a married couple, with or without ********, fits that description. But four of five surveyed pointed also to an unmarried, opposite-sex couple with ******** or a single parent. Three of 5 people said a same-sex couple with ******** was a ******.

"Marriage is still very important in this country, but it doesn't dominate ****** life like it used to," said Andrew Cherlin, a professor of sociology and public policy at Johns Hopkins University. "Now there are several ways to have a successful ****** life, and more people accept them."

The broadening views of ****** are expected to have an impact at Thanksgiving. About nine in 10 Americans say they will share a Thanksgiving meal next week with ******, sitting at a table with 12 people on average. About one-fourth of respondents said there will be 20 or more ****** members.

"More Americans are living in these new families, so it seems safe to assume that there will be more of them around the Thanksgiving dinner table," said Paul Taylor, executive vice president of the Pew Research Center.

The changing views of ****** are being driven largely by young adults 18-29, who are more likely than older generations to have an unmarried or divorced parent or have friends who do. Young adults also tend to have more liberal attitudes when it comes to spousal roles and living together before marriage, the survey found.

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But economic factors, too, are playing a role. The Census Bureau recently reported that opposite-sex unmarried couples living together jumped 13 percent this year to 7.5 million. It was a sharp one-year increase that analysts largely attributed to people ********* to make long-term marriage commitments in the face of persistent unemployment.

Beginning next year, the Census Bureau will publish new, supplemental poverty figures that move away from the traditional concept of ****** as a husband and wife with two ********. It will broaden the definition to include unmarried couples, such as same-sex partners, as well as ****** ******** who are not related by ***** or adoption.

Officials say such a move will reduce the number of families and ******** who are considered poor based on the new supplemental measure, which will be used as a guide for federal and state agencies to set anti-poverty policies. That's because two unmarried partners who live together with ******** and work are currently not counted by census as a single "******" with higher pooled incomes, but are officially defined as two separate units — one being a single parent and *****, the other a single person — who aren't sharing household resources.

"People are rethinking what ****** means," Cherlin said. "Given the growth, I think we need to accept cohabitation relationships as a basis for some of the fringe benefits offered to families, such as health insurance."

Still, the study indicates that marriage isn't going to disappear anytime soon. Despite a growing view that marriage may not be necessary, 67 percent of Americans were upbeat about the future of marriage and ******. That's higher than their optimism for the nation's educational system (50 percent), economy (46 percent) or its morals and ethics (41 percent).

And about half of all currently unmarried adults, 46 percent, say they want to get married. Among those unmarried who are living with a partner, the share rises to 64 percent.

Other findings:

_About 34 percent of Americans called the growing variety of ****** living arrangements good for society, while 32 percent said it didn't make a difference and 29 percent said it was troubling.

_About 44 percent of people say they have lived with a partner without being married; for 30-to-49-year-olds, that share rose to 57 percent. In most cases, those couples said they considered cohabitation as a step toward marriage.

_About 62 percent say that the best marriage is one where the husband and wife both work and both take care of the household and ********. That's up from 48 percent who held that view in 1977.

The Pew study was based on interviews with 2,691 adults by cell phone or landline from Oct. 1-21. The survey has a total margin of error of plus or minus 2.6 percentage points, larger for subgroups. Pew also analyzed 2008 census data, and used surveys conducted by Time magazine to identify trends from earlier decades.

http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/us_declining_marriage
 
I remember seeing an article on yahoo news a year or so back. It stated that marrages in the UK were at their lowest rate in the past thirty years. People these days get married because they want to, not because they need to, like what it was like thirty years ago. People don't need to listen to this so-called unwritten rule made by control freaks where you need to be married before sex or before having ********. And a ***** born out of wedlock isn't a bastard as these control freaks would put it. Nope. The only bastard is the one that is calling the *** a bastard to begin with, and who want other people to live THEIR LIVES the way that person wants them to. When it is in fact fuck all to do with anyone but those involved in the relationship.
 

PirateKing

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Marriage is pressure. People are capable of having a long and meaningful relationship without it. Plus it would render divorce lawyers unemployed, which is always a plus.
 

Elwood70

Torn & Frayed.
It's obsolete to me. I'll never get married again.
 
I wholeheartedly agree with this getto cliche: "Marriage is fo' suckas!"
 
So the minority thinks it's obsolete. Not sure this is anything, really.
 

vodkazvictim

Why save the world, when you can rule it?
I never really wanted to get married. But the missus does & I only want her, so why not?
 

LukeEl

I am a failure to the Korean side of my ******
I wonder how many Helen's agree with this.
 
And another thing some say it is better for the ****. WRONG. Being married doesn't mean you will have better financial security for the ******. So how is being married any different from not being married when it comes to ****. As long as the **** are loved and cared for either way, it doesn't fucking matter.
 

girk1

Closed Account
And another thing some say it is better for the ****. WRONG. Being married doesn't mean you will have better financial security for the ******. So how is being married any different from not being married when it comes to ****. As long as the **** are loved and cared for either way, it doesn't fucking matter.

Well I always hear women say that "I can take care of my ***** alone" "Don't need a man",etc........,but the statistics(if they are correct) say that SINGLE ******* are the absolute WORST parents.:dunno:

According to the numbers SINGLE ******* turn out way more incarcerated criminals,poorer performing students,etc...........(I know **** from nice married households fuck up too, but the numbers say singles are the absolute worst)


With the time demands of this modern society I would think that a *** has a better chance with more parental supervision. Be it two gay men or lesbian couples with **** or traditional male/female home(or help/stability from grandparents) I would assume these **** have a BETTER CHANCE at a more productive life.

I could care less about the institution of marriage ,but I am always disappointed a bit when I see **** with only ONE parent.

Though I turned out relatively okay/productive I can't help but think that I would PERHAPS be a better man had my ****** had more help/stability(Though my grandparents were a strong influence).
 

Legzman

what the fuck you lookin at?
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no ****. Its about time that starts becoming the norm. I never understood the point in marriage. All it is, is a fuckin piece of paper. Doesn't meant ****! All that matters, when it comes down to it is, do you get along with the person well enough to live with em...
 
Not all that surprising. It's already obsolete in Scandinavia. Me, I will get married some day, but it's going to be at some cheesy Elivs Chapel or something - nothing fancy. :D
 

meesterperfect

Hiliary 2020
yep and about 1 in 4 live off the government too.

one reason of many that its becoming obsolete is because you get financially punished by the government if youre married and have ********.
if youre not maried well then the woman is a single *** and gets all kinds of tax breaks and free money.
so people just cant afford to be married, have a ****** and raise their **** to be good adults thanks to uncle sammy.
thanks to the system of take from one group and give to another people are still having **** but **** without families.
and you know what that gets you most of the time.
its just one of the many things wrong with the country.

another reason people dont get married as much today is women.
face it, american women have changed a lot over the past say 20 years.
not all of course but the majority are just plain miserable, unhappy people.
never satisfied, love drama and confrontation.
society and the media have fucked american women up.
they dont want to get married unless its with a guy that looks like brads pitt and drives a porsche, until they hit 35 and then they marry the first sucker willing to support them, and then theyre still fucking miserable.
who the fuck wants that besides a truly lonely desperate guy?

well, those are my two big reasons for this trend
 

meesterperfect

Hiliary 2020
I wholeheartedly agree with this getto cliche: "Marriage is fo' suckas!"

well they probably say it because 90% of them are living off the system.
you dont get **** if youre married, or at least much less.

why do you agree with it hell?

they also say school and work are for suckers, i guess you agree with that too.
 
More here

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/art...wing-number-********-live-single-parents.html
 
Marriage is great and wonderful when done right, and that involves caring for someone other than yourself as much as you care for yourself. It's pretty simple (in theory).

I wonder how many Helen's agree with this.

:1orglaugh Effing awesome reference. It's always 30, man!

 
Hell, I've been saying that for years now. I'm 38 and I'm still single and enjoying my life more than ever before. I get hit on by unhappily married women from all directions these days. I agree with one other poster who said that the American media has screwed womens' minds completely. Think about it, shows like Sex In The City, Desperate Housewives, & Cougar Town among others. What are these shows about? Desperate women who gave up on "being independent" and/or "being the stay-at-home wife" and are now looking for our dicks to satisfy them. It's all over the place. These women are looking to fuck other guys at any cost. And them some of them end up being like Alexis Golden, Janet Mason, and Karen Kougar and end up making a living off of it too.

That's why everytime I see those Kay Jewelers and Jared commercials I want to throw something at the TV set because it's obvious marriage means nothing these days.
 
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