I come in here and read these stories about bad things that have happened to people or to ******* and find myself not caring that much. I was just wondering if others on here felt the same way. Am I wrong for feeling this way? Should I care so much for creatures that I don't know, when I realize that death and pain are parts of life?
Are you emotionally numb?
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Will E Worm
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Yes, you should care. Criminals need to be brought to justice.
I care when I hear tragic stories about people and *******.
tartanterrier
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Yes....I just couldn't give a monkeys 
youwanttoshagme
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Not emotionally numb, but maybe desensitised as bad news and crimes are so freely talked about and reported now, the stories that used to shock are now more commonly reported.
Wow, Will E, that's an interesting response. AverageAllStar just brought up "stories about bad things that have happened to people or to *******" and the "death and pain" that goes with it, and you are automatically talking about CRIMINALS that need to be brought to justice.<P>
Also, is the fact that something is ******* the only reason to care about tragic deaths, pain, and suffering? If locking up the criminals (or executing them, or whatever) is the only reason to care, then perhaps I'd prefer to be emotionally numb than buy into that mode of thinking...
Will E Worm
Conspiracy...
He also said:
I care about people and ******* that are hurt by others. Like the girl that was beat by a gang of her "friends".
Victims need to see their perpetrators brought to justice and so do the rest of us.
Harsher penalties have to start being used and that might just deter some of these crimes.
On Monday I attended the funeral of one of my oldest friends.
A fellow musician, we have known each other for 27 years and played hundreds of gigs together .. one of the best guitar players I ever heard.
His widow asked me to sing in the chapel .. I was ok until 5 minutes or so into the ceremony when I had to breathe deep and slow in order to relax myself enough to get through my tribute to him .. and yes i did manage to stave off the overwhelming sense of sorrow and loss I felt .. long enough to get through. Hard .. very hard.
Am I emotionally numb .. no absolutely not
A fellow musician, we have known each other for 27 years and played hundreds of gigs together .. one of the best guitar players I ever heard.
His widow asked me to sing in the chapel .. I was ok until 5 minutes or so into the ceremony when I had to breathe deep and slow in order to relax myself enough to get through my tribute to him .. and yes i did manage to stave off the overwhelming sense of sorrow and loss I felt .. long enough to get through. Hard .. very hard.
Am I emotionally numb .. no absolutely not
I think I feel emotions even more than most people. That doesn't mean they will be the same as somebody else’s. On the other hand I have learned to hide any outward appearance of them when I want or feed the need to do so. I rarely express any negative emotions openly in a physical manner except maybe anger. Even that's rare and by that time I would have to be extremely pissed off to the point where there is no question everybody is going to know it. I never physically show sadness. I guess in a way I almost don't want it to be a sing of weakness that perhaps won't matter most of the time, except for that one time were it will and come back to bite me in the ass. I want to protect myself from that. To a good number of people I have never expressed any strong outside to I probably seem stoic. In some ways it can be the worst of both worlds sometimes. At least the people that are truly emotionally deficit don't have to worry about feeling anything where I still do. I probably show more emotion in my writing like on this messageboard than I do in my day-to-day life.
In any case I always try to think with my brain and not my emotions no matter what the situation is. From what I have experienced observing people around me and around the world, letting your emotions think for you usually ends up badly sooner or later.
In any case I always try to think with my brain and not my emotions no matter what the situation is. From what I have experienced observing people around me and around the world, letting your emotions think for you usually ends up badly sooner or later.
I think you hit on "desensitized" as the right word here. For a lot of people, the more you hear about the same thing over and over, it becomes commonplace. I also think that the shock or sadness over an event increases manyfold for those who witness it themselves. It is sometimes hard to get those first-hand images out of your mind.
If I may say so, my friend, I feel that my emotional make-up is a lot like yours. I tend to hide my outward emotions, but I believe that this makes them all the more prevalent on the inside. I find myself with events and stories haunting me until I can come somewhere where I can show emotion, like this board. It helps a lot to express how I feel on here.
That is the a great thing about boards like this, and it touches on what AverageAllStar had to say. Perhaps what is different with this board, (different from reading a newspaper or watching the news that is) is that we can INSTANTLY comment and let our feelings be known on a particular worrisome event. It helps to get this off our chest, and perhaps even more, it helps to see that others share our opinions. It is comforting, in a way, that not ALL of society is going to hell in a handbasket.
I think I'm desensitized when it comes to people. When I hear about a case of ****** ***** it really bothers me, but I really don't have too much reaction when it comes to hearing about humans. It's probably something to do with the fact that I think the human race is diseased and is an unnecessary addition to the world. Even when it is someone close to me I don't feel as much sorrow as I probably should; 3 of my grandparents have died, and I didn't genuinely cry for any of them. When my ***'s *** died I was bummed out, but I didn't feel the deep sense of sorrow that I should have felt for someone to whom I was that close to.
well said. I'm the same way.
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sputnikgirl
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I don't cry over death, partly because I see death for what it is...an inevitable fact that everyone has to experience. The other part is that I feel guilty grieving over one person, when there are thousands dying senselessly each day from starvation, bloodshed, etc. that nobody grieves for.
At one point in life I was emotionally numb, because I found it a better alternative to being depressed all the time. I've struggled most of my life with depression, and sometimes I found myself resorting to making myself numb so I wouldn't have to deal with it.
At one point in life I was emotionally numb, because I found it a better alternative to being depressed all the time. I've struggled most of my life with depression, and sometimes I found myself resorting to making myself numb so I wouldn't have to deal with it.
The only time I feel emotionally numb is when I'm depressed (which was basically me for most of last year, 2007 was **** for me!). It feels absolutely weird.
I'm pretty sensitive - death usually affects me without fail for instance. I get mad at some of the stories I read/hear. I'm happy being like that if I'm honest. A bit of emotion can do you good.
I'm pretty sensitive - death usually affects me without fail for instance. I get mad at some of the stories I read/hear. I'm happy being like that if I'm honest. A bit of emotion can do you good.
You just quoted the same thing that I quoted. But again, why do you jump to the conclusion/make the assumption that bad things that happen to people must necessarily be crimes???
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