I' ve been together with a girl for about 1 year. We've held our relationship as a secret for several reasons. Anyway...
In about 2-3 years I'm planning to take my education in another country than my homecountry, which will last for 2 years. Costs, related to travelling home, is to expensive, letting me visit friends and ****** only 2 times a year. As it will be for my girlfriend also if she's moving along with me. She's very fond of her ******, unlike me, and two times a year is not acceptable for her.
There will also be at least 4 years until we can have a baby, which is 2 years longer than she want to.
If she decide to wait for me while I'm gone it will take 4 years until we can start trying to have a baby. She's not sure if she want to take the risk, waiting for me.
In a worst case scenario she decides to wait, and after 3 years we split. Then she has thrown away 3 years.
If she decides to split with me, we will actually live in the same town for 2-3 years without being together. Even if we both are very much in love.
I really don't know what to do... She wants to have contact with me while she's deciding. I find it very hard, but I want to be with her. It will be even harder if she decides to not be with me...
For the record, she wants to have a baby in about 2 years, but it will be 4 or 5 years until it's possible for me.
In about 2-3 years I'm planning to take my education in another country than my homecountry, which will last for 2 years. Costs, related to travelling home, is to expensive, letting me visit friends and ****** only 2 times a year. As it will be for my girlfriend also if she's moving along with me. She's very fond of her ******, unlike me, and two times a year is not acceptable for her.
There will also be at least 4 years until we can have a baby, which is 2 years longer than she want to.
If she decide to wait for me while I'm gone it will take 4 years until we can start trying to have a baby. She's not sure if she want to take the risk, waiting for me.
In a worst case scenario she decides to wait, and after 3 years we split. Then she has thrown away 3 years.
If she decides to split with me, we will actually live in the same town for 2-3 years without being together. Even if we both are very much in love.
I really don't know what to do... She wants to have contact with me while she's deciding. I find it very hard, but I want to be with her. It will be even harder if she decides to not be with me...
For the record, she wants to have a baby in about 2 years, but it will be 4 or 5 years until it's possible for me.
