Sex too good to cheat?

[Member2019]

I figured it's time for a poll on this. I've talked about, and I've seen a few others talk about, how good they have it with their long-term partner in the sack. So I'm curious where most people's feelings lie.

As always, this poll is anonymous ...

1. Openly do not have a monogamous relationship
2. Don't have (or did not have) a long-term partner
3. Not been monogamous, and it cost me
4. Not been monogamous, but he/she doesn't know
5. Wasn't monogamous once/twice, but it the added sex wasn't anything better
6. Always been monogamous, but he/she sucks in the sack
7. Always been monogamous, but he/she is one of my better loves
8. Always been monogamous, and he/she is the best I've ever had
9. Always been monogamous, and he/she puts pornstars to shame
10. Other (please post, if you don't mind)

 

[Kingfisher]

Well there's having an emotional connection with someone, long term partner, and then there's just getting your rocks off. I heard the other day that majority of women's brains release a chemical , I believe called nictocin, which bonds the physical of sex to the emotional. Men, it's just a physical reaction. But we still care for that other person, we are the protector and gatherer. As a species, we're not made to be monogamous. So if you're not going to be monogamous and partake in sport-f**king, then be damn sure the other person's feelings got get hurt.

 

[DevinnLaneLover]

I once had a "one-day stand" and it was awesome I'll admit. But being in a relationship I find the sex is a hell of a lot better...you really get to know each other and there are parts of that that make it even more exciting.

 

[squallumz]

for me, originally, the girl i am with now was just on my list of stops on my play list. i was seeing up to 4 different girls at the time. starting from in my town to the next town over, and the next one after that. i didnt know it then but i was really living it well. i was bouting with what i thought was falling in love with this one girl who still gets under my skin after 5 years while, seeing a girl who feel heads over heels for me and i only knew her for 6 drunken hours prior, as well as a too young cowgirl with an oral fixation, and a schizophrenic bombshell who also thought blowjobs were like shaking hands.

somewhere along the line, the girl im with now started tugging on my heart. i took her virginity and say her literally every night for a long time. then i started sleeping there overnight. then for 2 days in a row. before i knew it i went home and felt broken and empty. eventually, after battling with myself over the fact i was falling in love when i didnt want to i accpeted the facts and moved in with her.

but meanwhile the head over heels girl came back and pulled me into her world. it was a crazy world involving disgustingly delicious sex, drugs, pregnancies, the works. of course, the 2 girls found out about eachother. the sex pot didnt care, made fun of me and called me a slut (before fucking me in public restrooms in the middle of night) but she wasnt letting go.

long long story shorter, i eventually lost the girl i was really in love with for a while. it felt like forever and i wanted to die. it was awful. i got my emotinal ass handed to me like i deserved. so yes, i cheated. i cheated like a whore, but i was high and stupid. the other girls sex was awesome, but i was fucking a virgin on the other hand with my current so its kind of a balancing act. both are good in their own ways.

a couple years later, im still here with the right girl and im happy. the other tries to hit me up from time to time, even sends me dirty emails and pictures but ive been good. i dont want to get in trouble again, it sucks balls.

 

[hughcruik]

My ex-girlfriend used to brag about how good she was at sex. And she was. What I didn't have the heart to tell her is that 99% of the women I've dated have been great at sex. She was great but nothing special. Point is, lots go into making sex great with someone. It can all be different and all be great for reasons we don't fully understand.

BTW, I think "too good to cheat" is a bad premise. Even if the sex isn't good cheating is unseemly.

 

[Imagine]

I wonder how long it'll take before one of those stories that you're not sure you wanted to hear but never seems to stop comming will be shared.

 

[Member2019]

Missed my point ...

BTW, I think "too good to cheat" is a bad premise. Even if the sex isn't good cheating is unseemly.

You missed my point.

First and foremost, I don't cheat on my wife because I love her and hold everything we have together special.
But secondly, she's puts many pornstars to shame in bed, so I really have no fucking reason for doing so even if the "first and foremost" somehow left my mind for that 2.5 seconds per year.

That was my point.

 

[LizziE]

I have nothing to complain about, nothing, totally absolutely positively nothing. And on top of that, I've always been monogamous in a relationship. Actually, I might go for answer 'Always been monogamous, and he/she puts pornstars to shame'. Just because I love the way that's phrased.

 

[Count Fuckula]

My current gf I have been with for about 9 months .. known her longer tho.
She lives in a town 70 miles away and we don't see each other daily and whilst there are opportunities for me to screw around, I don't .. because
(a) it would be disrespectful to her and
(b) she is so sexually uninhibited exciting and liberated that anyone else would have real trouble measuring up.
I'm 23 yrs older than her and she's done stuff to me / for me that I've never experienced before (and I've been sexually active 35 years).. why ruin a good thing .. and hurt someone into the bargain??

 

[Iamforever]

Always been monogamous, and he/she is the best I've ever had

out of those options, i choose this one. cant say she puts pornstars to shame because i have never had a pornstar.

in reality, i choose option 11. my reason.

 

[Legzman]

I chose other because I'd say I've always been monogamous, but she doesn't sucks in the sack, at the same time not the best I've ever had!

Best blowjob however! So that makes up for it IMO!!!

 

[HeartBroker]

You just plain don't.
If you don't like the sex and it's that bad, walk.

 

[Legzman]

I'm weird.

:1orglaugh Quote of the year 2007! :1orglaugh
We really had no idea!

 

[Member2019]

Fox is not weird ... and doesn't really think much different than I

I don't care how good the sex is... I don't think it's my nature to only have sex with one person. I don't think it's human nature. The better sex I'm getting from my gf, the more other girls I wanna stick it in. I'm weird.

I don't think you're weird, you have a healthy, open relationship.
There's nothing "weird" about that, maybe far less common, but not "weird."
It's one of the things I respect about you.

I have chosen monogamy of my free will because it's what I want and my wife wants out of our relationship.
But don't think anyone else should have to, and I really don't like others who judge.
I don't believe in "one size fits all."

However, if my wife left me, died, etc... and I finally found someone else, and she preferred polygamy, I'd have to be objective and find if it's right for me.
But that's very unlikely to happen, and I really find myself lusting for no other woman at all, as I voted above.

In fact, and I'm going to "reach out" to you here so don't take it wrong ...
Fox, you and I actually don't differ a whole lot in how we feel about things individually.
I believe everyone should help everyone else, give for the greater good, etc...
I believe people shouldn't judge others, and realize what's good/bad for one may or may not be good/bad for another.

Political Note:
I think only part when it comes to the government's role in that.
I clearly have a classic, American Libertarian viewpoint, which is hard to find these days.
Which is why I'm in the minority not only on "more leftish" boards like this one, but "more rightish" boards too.
The classic, American Libertarian viewpoint doesn't fit our two US political parties well.

 

[KittyKat]

8. Always been monogamous, and he/she is the best I've ever had

That's what I voted for. Mainly because I have never had sex with any pornstar - male or female

But I am monogamous and the sex is absolutely fantastic. No complaints at ALL!

 

[jumbo_jim]

I think cheating is wrong regardless of the sex.

 

[pathfinder]

I don't know what I'm missing so it doesn't bother me. It's not like I have anyone new to compare it to so the sex I'm having is and always will be the best I'm ever gonna have.

I couldn't have sex with another woman... the guilt would pretty well ruin it the experience for me.

 

[rebeccalover707]

I almost wanted to say that my girlfriend puts pornstars to shame, but that's not true, of course.

 

[Member2019]

I think cheating is wrong regardless of the sex.

I don't think I was even addressing that.
I was just curious what the statistics are.
Especially for those of us that have it so good in the sack, it has never crossed our minds.

Even if my wife sucked in the sack, I would still be with her, she's my best friend.
But I would have had to ask myself much harder questions before I married her before I did.

 

[Member2019]

Wife just reminded me this long weekend ...

Of why the fuck I have absolutely no desire to even think about cheating, period.
God she is just too fucking good in the sack, I'm so beyond undeserving.