Pretty low sensitivity through masturbation/not able to come via sex.

[banjo1699584018]

Hi there guys...

first of all, I'm 20 years old. I was still a virgin with 19 (and 3/4), when i first had sex.

However, i started masturbating at the age of 13/14 or so.

long story short, I'm not able to come via sex. Please don't talk about "It's in your head" and that stuff. We see all those male porn stars. For the "cumshot", they mostly have to masturbate pretty hard even after having hard sex for more than 20-30 min.

So my question is, do you guys have similar problems? Anyone already had success solving them? I know, stopping masturbation for a few weeks could help. But I'd like to hear some experiences/opinions from user who had the same problem and maybe solved it.

btw, i know this may be offtopic. But i hope someone can help me out on this. =/

 

[gunslingingbird]

You think you can't cum during sex because you started beating off when you were 13? Doesn't make sense. I started when I was 2 years younger than you were, and I don't have problems.

Do you use condoms when you have sex? I know that condoms can vastly decrease the sensation and ruin the experience. It's definitely happened to me before. I wouldn't necessarily recommend unprotected sex, but condoms could be a factor.

 

[tartanterrier]

I wish I could have sex for 20-30 mins.It's more like 20-30 seconds for me :1orglaugh
Just keep shagging and you'll eventually come

 

[BlueBalls]

Loosen your grip young grasshopper.

It might just be that you're gripping to tight when you masturbate, if so and you are used to doing it this way then vaginal stimulation isnt going to be as stimlating because no vagina out there is going to be as tight as your hand is (unless your lucky ), so I would say masturbate a few times with less of a grip and it'll get you ready for the holiest of holys.

If that doesnt work, consult a doctor.

 

[banjo1699584018]

thanks for your posts...

i agree with blueballs... I think it's more due the speed, not the "grip"

however I can't believe that I'm the only one with this problem... especially in a forum like this

 

[Marlo Manson]

Thats what they mean when they say your squeezing (your cock) too tight ie. YOUR CHOKING YOUR CHICKEN :rofl2: :hatsoff:

 

[banjo1699584018]

hm... as said, not too tight...

 

[mambastyles]

Hi there guys...

first of all, I'm 20 years old. I was still a virgin with 19 (and 3/4), when i first had sex.

However, i started masturbating at the age of 13/14 or so.

long story short, I'm not able to come via sex. Please don't talk about "It's in your head" and that stuff. We see all those male porn stars. For the "cumshot", they mostly have to masturbate pretty hard even after having hard sex for more than 20-30 min.

So my question is, do you guys have similar problems? Anyone already had success solving them? I know, stopping masturbation for a few weeks could help. But I'd like to hear some experiences/opinions from user who had the same problem and maybe solved it.

btw, i know this may be offtopic. But i hope someone can help me out on this. =/

Yeah man I have this issue. I've even gone without condoms and still didn't come. It sucks. I have to really concentrate in order to get there. I've gotten to the point a few times that I need to just stop because I'm tired of fucking.

What has helped is using a thinner condom, with a little lube inside of it at the tip. Just a drop. Or do what I do and fuck her face(or a gentle blowjob lol) til you get a good amount of spit on your tip and then put the condom on. I'm not huge but I use rhin magnums. Regular condoms suck and I regularly lose wood with them cause I can't feel anything after awhile.

Oh! And slow down. If you pound away too quickly or hard you surely will go numb. I like to start very slow and deep and sensual to get her warmed up...I use my fingers and tongue a lot too get it super wet. When she wants it faster I use shallow thrusts so that I get more sensation at the tip and throw in a slow, deep one every few seconds so she is happy.

This usually gets us both over the edge after awhile. Sometimes its just fun to pull out and jerk off over her body as well so if you have trouble getting off still don't count that out. Even see if she will "top you off" so to speak with a blowjob. That may help to get used to the silky soft feeling that women so graciously give.

Good luck!

 

[banjo1699584018]

thanks for the post, however i was looking for a solution for the main problem, I can't do things like that in your post to new ladies/girlfriends lol

that's not the point. I'd like to know if someone got his "sensitivity" back after he had the same problem!

 

[Rey C.]

Dude, you very well might have a medical or nerve problem. The best thing to do is schedule an appointment with a board certified urologist ASAP. Hopefully it's nothing serious. But you don't want to ask medical advice on a porn (or any other kind of) board.

 

[Galactic]

That may help to get used to the silky soft feeling that women so graciously give.

Good luck!

The entire post was great.....but this last line was superb! :thumbsup:

 

[Ashleigh]

I've heard of this before. Your body and brain is so used to wanking, that its hard to orgasm with any other methods. If you have a gf and have the opportunity for regular sex, I'd honestly just say put the porn away and stop masturbating and focus only on sex with your lady. Work on it. There really isn't an overnite solution, and any sexual "problems" usually take time to work through. If you think bating is the reason why your penis doesn't really react to pussy...then take away the wanking and give your penor time to get used to a nice wet snatch! Then once you can enjoy sex again, slowly get back to the one-on-one time.

 

[vaasta1987]

Dude, you very well might have a medical or nerve problem. The best thing to do is schedule an appointment with a board certified urologist ASAP. Hopefully it's nothing serious. But you don't want to ask medical advice on a porn (or any other kind of) board.

QFT

If you have difficulty climaxing it might not be down to your technique, there is also a chance that You Might have a sexual dysfunction (see: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sexual_dysfunction).

(yes I am aware wikipedia is open source, but 95% of the information on that page is correct, trust me)

Now keep in mind I dont want to stigmatize you with this advice, not at all. Most of the disorders on there are due to negative sexually related experiences from the past. If theres nothing psychologic to your problem, then it might just be down to your technique after all. It might also be that you are so focused on climaxing, that you become too tense and arent really enjoying intercourse at all, which leads to your problem.

 

[STDiva]

Tobasco sauce will cure you.

 

[24788]

You might be jacking too many times a day. You should take 2-3 day breaks from doing it. When my buddy went to boot camp he said he swore if he touched his penis after the first couple of weeks he would of blown a load (no homo).

The longest I've gone is nine days and that was when I went up north with some friends. I was really thinking about it though because we were having so much fun.

Trust me taking a break will make it very easy to lose it at your age.

Same age as me and I find it best to take a break.

 

[banjo1699584018]

thanks for the post

It's funny to see that almost noone seems to have the same problem. If you watch a recert porn, almost every male actor has to masturbate really hard in the end to cum.

I'm sure many others have those problems as well.

Still hoping for someone to chip who had the same problem and solved it.

 

[Doc420]

I would start working out, increase your testosterone

 

[Hot Mega]

You know the cure...you said it yourself....stop wanking and lay off the porn!!:2 cents:

 

[banjo1699584018]

I'm still looking for someone to admit having the same problem or someone who solved it. I knowa solution could be stopping masturbating, however still waiting for experiences.

 

[banjo1699584018]

bump bump, reveal yourself! LOL