Porn models, sex in scene and real life

[dpantski]

So your argument is that someone who works in porn, should be willing to do anything they've done as part of a scene with their partner? Here's the thing, work often involves doing things we don't like much or flat out dislike in small doses. Why would you expect them to want to do those things in private? Lets say the pornstar really enjoyed a threesome scene with 2 guys, does that mean her partner (this assumes her partner is a guy which isn't always the case) should have to go along with it even if they are uncomfortable with it? Another example, lets say a girl is willing to let a guy cum on her face in a porn video, this doesn't mean she likes having cum on her face and if that's the case she probably won't want to do it with her partner unless he requests it and she knows he really likes it and is willing to make an exception for him. Even then it wouldn't be fair for the guy to expect her todo something she dislikes/hates.

 

[288gto]

So your argument is that someone who works in porn, should be willing to do anything they've done as part of a scene with their partner? Here's the thing, work often involves doing things we don't like much or flat out dislike in small doses. Why would you expect them to want to do those things in private? Lets say the pornstar really enjoyed a threesome scene with 2 guys, does that mean her partner (this assumes her partner is a guy which isn't always the case) should have to go along with it even if they are uncomfortable with it? Another example, lets say a girl is willing to let a guy cum on her face in a porn video, this doesn't mean she likes having cum on her face and if that's the case she probably won't want to do it with her partner unless he requests it and she knows he really likes it and is willing to make an exception for him. Even then it wouldn't be fair for the guy to expect her todo something she dislikes/hates.

but then as a man would you be feeling like left behind? just asking, we are talking here don't get things close to your hearts.

 

[Harley Spencer]

I'm not insulting you, just looking for opinions.
let me ask you something like this you have 2 sanwiches, one is good, the other is bad, so yould you give the good one away and keep the bad one for yourself? I understand it is your work, and ok not always, but do you even try sometime to go with your partner just like in the scene or close to it? well, would you do that sacrifice for the person you love? this is what i'm talking about.

Luckily for me, I only do solo content and every shoot that I do is dictated by me, therefore yes, I do in fact do things from my shoots for Happy.

For girls who don't have solo sites and primarily shoot content for other companies that are paid per scene (mine aren't), they're doing so because they're getting paid, and they don't always like it. With what little experience I have doing b/g work, I rarely cared for what I did. The cum shots in my face were not fun, I didn't enjoy the dirty talk, the positions didn't supply enough stimulation to my clit, my legs often hurt like hell due to how cowgirl had to be shot, etc. many of the things that are done in porn are borderline hard limits for the girls, meaning it's not something they absolutely won't do because they hate it, but that they'll do it because although it's not something they like, the money is good.

What are you going to give your girlfriend in return for doing something she doesn't like for you? I hope a lot. In turn, you should do something that you aren't comfortable with in order to please her. It's only fair.

 

[HappyHapyJoyJoy]

...I want quality sex with my GF. I would break her up if she says she wouldn't do with me anything she does on the scene because I will feel less important to her.

Quality sex?...

let me ask you something like this you have 2 sanwiches, one is good, the other is bad, so yould you give the good one away and keep the bad one for yourself?

Bad? So non-anal sex is bad and of low quality? This makes me think two things...

First, you're basically saying you don't like womens' vaginas.

Second, since you don't like vaginas, and think only anal is good and only butts make for quality sex... maybe you should consider being gay. I mean, not even all gay men like anal, but it's probably more readily accepted, and... well, it's not like you enjoy vaginas anyway, right? So you won't even be missing out on anything. Dudes still have what you're looking for.

Also, I'm sure your "future porn model gf" would be thrilled to know you think sex with her without anal is bad and lacks quality. I imagine she'll be thrilled you have such a high opinion of her lady bits...

Dear Mr.Happy, please reply with facts and opinions, not insults.

I've made no insults, just stated facts. You don't understand. You will not get a "porn model gf". You lack any kind of compassion or sense of caring. These are facts.

You say stuff like this...

...so I wonder, isn't the partner the one who should be really please, even more than the guys in the scenes? just wondering, don't get it wrong, please.

... as though this thread is you actually looking to learn something, that you're looking for opinions, but you're not. You just made this topic to push your silly little opinion and judge people...

well I guess you womens here obviously just get into a relationship, but I guess you don't really care about your men eh?

Seriously, that is insulting and the type of statement only a complete douchebag would make. Also...

i understand it's painful...

I know it's painful, but...

You twice acknowledge that it might hurt her, but...

If I had a porn model gf, I would say that she doesn't give a shit about me if she wont pleasure me at least like she does on her movies. Gentle?

I would break her up if she says she wouldn't do with me anything she does on the scene because I will feel less important to her.

You're saying if she wouldn't do it you would threaten to break up with her. So you're leveling threats. Think about that for a minute.

So with this fictitious and implausible "porn model gf" of yours you're trying to get her to do things she does not like and you believe she considers painful... and you not only DON'T CARE you flatly state you would dump her if she does not do them. Seriously, how is that a sign of you caring? And what did you say? Oh yeah, "well I guess you womens here obviously just get into a relationship, but I guess you don't really care about your men eh?" Really? You think they don't care while you are trying to force people into doing things that hurt them?

And you see, this is why you will not get a "porn model gf". With this type of attitude, how could you expect otherwise? It will not happen because it shows you are a callous, callow and insensitive ass, since you are a callous, callow and insensitive ass. To be frank, if you express this kind of crap to anyone they will not want to date you. No one wants to be emotionally blackmailed into sex acts they don't want to do and worse hurts them. It's one thing to do something for money, as a job it's another to be blackmailed into doing it by someone who is supposed to love you and not want to hurt you and force you into doing shit you don't like.

Again, go Google "pegging". You go ahead and take one for the team. If it's good for the goose it's good for the gander, right?

So just a recap here of the facts:

1. This is not a thread about "just talking" it's one for you to judge people.
2. You will NOT get a "porn model gf".
3. You dislike vaginas.
4. You are perfectly fine with emotionally blackmailing women.
5. You are perfectly fine with hurting your girlfriends.
6. You are a callous, callow insensitive ass.

P.S. If I had a thought half as selfish, mean and petty as the crap you're spewing in this topic I would feel bad about myself and likely slip into a deep depression. For your sake I hope you feel bad about yourself.

 

[dpantski]

but then as a man would you be feeling like left behind? just asking, we are talking here don't get things close to your hearts.

Its not perfect from a selfish perspective, but a relationship is made of 2 people and you should respect that your wants and needs aren't more important than theirs.

 

[HappyHapyJoyJoy]

Hmm, after consulting with my porn model gf the impeccably yummy Ms. Harley Spencer drool1, it turns out I may have been slightly insulting. However, due to the topic creator also being insulting and due to my remarks being incredibly accurate I think I shall let them stand.

 

[288gto]

Hmm, after consulting with my porn model gf the impeccably yummy Ms. Harley Spencer drool1, it turns out I may have been slightly insulting. However, due to the topic creator also being insulting and due to my remarks being incredibly accurate I think I shall let them stand.

well go ahead and close the topic.... if you wanna shut me up, ok, at least I know there is no freedom of speech here, and I will not reply anymore, please close all of my threads. I don't care but with this you don't let people express themselves but only hear what you want. please close this thread and live happy by chatting with people who think like you. the aim of this topic is would the life partner of the models feel comfortable or not.... nevermind. just close it. Freedom of speech died here now, it's done I'm out goodbye. I hope everyone will read this.

 

[HappyHapyJoyJoy]

well go ahead and close the topic.... if you wanna shut me up...

Take off the tinfoil hat. Where did I threaten to close the topic? The only threats issued here are by you against a hypothetical girlfriend.

And no, I won't. I don't wish to close the topic, and don't have the authority to do so without a violation of the rules, of which there are none. I don't want you to shut up, I want you to realize you're acting like a selfish douche and being a terrible human being and then correct your behavior and grow as a person. I would gain nothing by closing any topic, and since no rules have been violated another moderator, likely Stiffy, would just open it again.

...ok, at least I know there is no freedom of speech here...

Of course there's no freedom of speech, as that doesn't apply here. Freedom of speech, as enshrined in the constitution, is a rule for the government to not censor speech which does not tread upon the rights of another (which is why people can still, say, find themselves in court for defamation or for shouting "bomb" on an airplane). FreeOnes is not the government, and I am not a government official. Hell, I'm not even a FreeOnes official, I'm a volunteer moderator. Seeing as FreeOnes is not the government they can censor anything they wish, just as you could, say, kick someone out of your home for saying things you disagree with. FreeOnes and any individual or private body, do not need to follow the constitution, it's a set of rules for the government which outlines their powers and the laws they may pass. It does not apply to people nor the private sector in general.

FreeOnes does not have a constitution, it has a Terms of Use agreement you agreed to when you made your account.

I don't care but with this you don't let people express themselves but only hear what you want.

:1orglaugh

Where have I stopped you from expressing your opinion? Have I closed the topic? No. Will I? No. Have I edited any of your posts? No. Will I? No. Have I leveled any infractions against your account? No. Will I? No.

No one has stopped you from expressing yourself. All anyone (in fact, pretty much everyone, since Will doesn't count) has done is disagree with you. So, what... you would censor their opinion? Isn't this what you believe you are opposed to?

And when they do disagree, what then?

well I guess you womens here obviously just get into a relationship, but I guess you don't really care about your men eh?

You call them uncaring, all while suggesting that they should endure pain for you... because of course the fact that you don't care about their pain shows just how much you actually care.

But yeah, go ahead and express whatever opinion you want (that doesn't violate the rules of the board). You're allowed. But at the same time don't expect people to not disagree with it, and also don't expect them to be happy when you try to make them out as uncaring bitches all while showing nothing but the basest of selfishness...

 

[288gto]

Take off the tinfoil hat. Where did I threaten to close the topic? The only threats issued here are by you against a hypothetical girlfriend.

And no, I won't. I don't wish to close the topic, and don't have the authority to do so without a violation of the rules, of which there are none. I don't want you to shut up, I want you to realize you're acting like a selfish douche and being a terrible human being and then correct your behavior and grow as a person. I would gain nothing by closing any topic, and since no rules have been violated another moderator, likely Stiffy, would just open it again.



Of course there's no freedom of speech, as that doesn't apply here. Freedom of speech, as enshrined in the constitution, is a rule for the government to not censor speech which does not tread upon the rights of another (which is why people can still, say, find themselves in court for defamation or for shouting "bomb" on an airplane). FreeOnes is not the government, and I am not a government official. Hell, I'm not even a FreeOnes official, I'm a volunteer moderator. Seeing as FreeOnes is not the government they can censor anything they wish, just as you could, say, kick someone out of your home for saying things you disagree with. FreeOnes and any individual or private body, do not need to follow the constitution, it's a set of rules for the government which outlines their powers and the laws they may pass. It does not apply to people nor the private sector in general.

FreeOnes does not have a constitution, it has a Terms of Use agreement you agreed to when you made your account.



:1orglaugh

Where have I stopped you from expressing your opinion? Have I closed the topic? No. Will I? No. Have I edited any of your posts? No. Will I? No. Have I leveled any infractions against your account? No. Will I? No.

No one has stopped you from expressing yourself. All anyone (in fact, pretty much everyone, since Will doesn't count) has done is disagree with you. So, what... you would censor their opinion? Isn't this what you believe you are opposed to?

And when they do disagree, what then?



You call them uncaring, all while suggesting that they should endure pain for you... because of course the fact that you don't care about their pain shows just how much you actually care.

But yeah, go ahead and express whatever opinion you want (that doesn't violate the rules of the board). You're allowed. But at the same time don't expect people to not disagree with it, and also don't expect them to be happy when you try to make them out as uncaring bitches all while showing nothing but the basest of selfishness...

Listen you happy clown

Aim is questioning how it is influented in sexual life from scenes and reality, will it be fine, will their partners feel bad or whatever, and i got some answers, and we talked about it. so why the fuck clowning around from you. I didn't pull a gun or threatened someone to do with their partners what they do in scenes, just asked would they do it to make their partners feel better, is this so hard to understand? for any shit's sake you trust or whatever just fuck off and close this topic, you have become so annoying happy monkey. do you realise I am just asking, opinion's dude OPINION'S, I didn threat or pull my gun on anyone here.
so fuck you Happy!
now go ahead and do your shit you clown!

 

[Ari Dee]

If your gf works at a restaurant and makes you dinner do you expect her to serve you, refill your drinks and bring you a bill afterwards?

Someones sexual or romantic partner should actually give a shit about what they're into and when they're into it, not blindly expect it at all times because they do it for work..
that isn't changed just because someones job is porn.
What do you do for a living? Because somehow I doubt you'd want all the people in your personal life to expects those goods or services for free any time they demand them.

 

[288gto]

If your gf works at a restaurant and makes you dinner do you expect her to serve you, refill your drinks and bring you a bill afterwards?

Someones sexual or romantic partner should actually give a shit about what they're into and when they're into it, not blindly expect it at all times because they do it for work..
that isn't changed just because someones job is porn.
What do you do for a living? Because somehow I doubt you'd want all the people in your personal life to expects those goods or services for free any time they demand them.

I beat down clowns for fun and living. ok got it, real life sex isn't as in scene, you don't really enjoy got it. end of story. ok, this is my personal opinion so say whatever the fuck you want. If a girl is with me I want both her body and soul, I don't want only her soul because I'm gonna spent this world with her, dunno what will be in the other world, so I need her body too. MY OPINION don't get offended, and if you get, I don't care.

 

[HappyHapyJoyJoy]

Aim is questioning how it is influented in sexual life from scenes and reality, will it be fine, will their partners feel bad or whatever, and i got some answers, and we talked about it.

No... you pretended to ask for thoughts and opinions, but you already knew completely well what you thought, and you had already decided that everyone who disagreed with you was wrong, and when people responded, you passed judgement, as seen here:

well I guess you womens here obviously just get into a relationship, but I guess you don't really care about your men eh?

This was never meant to be a discussion, it was you pushing an agenda disguised as a discussion. Your response to people telling you why when you asked why wasn't, "Oh okay. Thanks for telling me!" It was, "Well, guess you just don't really care then! If you did you'd just suck it up and take the pain, which of course I don't care about, but then I don't have to because I'm entirely selfish."

I didn't pull a gun or threatened someone to do with their partners what they do in scenes, just asked would they do it to make their partners feel better, is this so hard to understand?

Never said you did. I said you leveled threats against a theoretical girlfriend which you proposed, which you did. You suggested you would emotionally abuse her to get your way, and if she didn't comply you'd threaten to abandon her, and then abandon her if she still did not comply. That's what you said. It's really not hard to understand. What's hard to understand is why you don't realize this is horrific behavior.

Seriously... everyone gets it but you (because again, Will doesn't count since he wishes for mass murder and chuckles about it... which should be a good litmus test for how bad your opinion is when HE agrees with it). You don't get it, great... but you also judged people who disagreed with you. So don't get your proverbial panties in bunch when you act like an asshole and people treat you like an asshole. Especially when you judged them as uncaring all while specifically drawing out point-by-point how you don't give a shit what your hypothetical girlfriend wants or that she is in actual physical pain.

 

[Mr_Stiffy]

From the OP :

just wondering, don't get it wrong, please.

... this meant "please don't get it wrong by fielding an opinion that differs from mine," apparently.

 

[Ari Dee]

I beat down clowns for fun and living. ok got it, real life sex isn't as in scene, you don't really enjoy got it. end of story. ok, this is my personal opinion so say whatever the fuck you want. If a girl is with me I want both her body and soul, I don't want only her soul because I'm gonna spent this world with her, dunno what will be in the other world, so I need her body too. MY OPINION don't get offended, and if you get, I don't care.

That's not what I said or implied..

you seem to just be twisting everyones words to justify your own rage over feeling unsatisfied sexually..
I'm guessing your dissatisfaction and frustration is more a result of your blatant temperament problem than it is whether or not women enjoy a certain sexual act on or off screen.

 

[288gto]

Well if ya think so then what do you have something better to say. For fucks sake happy this is a good topic and stop whining shit but tell what you think. Don't we all have the right to say what we think. You're so annoying

 

[freeones_regina]

Ok kids, stop it now...