I think it's lovely that everyone is able to navigate love, marriage and relationships with such ease here! Apparently, we on the boards have evolved to the point where we easily grasp the concepts of love and fidelity - moreso than the general population where all of this 'cheating' and other evil takes place. Congrats to all of the Dr. Phils out there.
Everyone has the right to an opinion - I say and mean that respectfully. Yet, for that opinion to be taken as solid advice (at least for me), one should also have experience to back it up. Otherwise, it's simply a POV.
Thus, unless you are or have been married, your comments on this topic should be regarded basically as such.
bnaked, the fact that these thoughts cross your mind before marriage to me indicates a degree of conscience, responsibility and dare I say commitment on your part. Some people are coming down on you, which I disagree with because you have not actually done any of these things (where in fact again they can simply comment), but you are merely socializing.
So, what is my advice to you in this area? Simply, consider the source of any 'advice' that you find on the web. IMO, FreeOnes may not be the ideal place to ask questions about relationships. Note that you have been met with relatively few responses in this thread ... where is the silent majority and what are they thinking?
:2 cents: