Need help with something

[Violator79]

I've been talking to a girl and thought things were going well. Then she says I'm a total prick because at the very beginning I said I like brunettes more than blondes, and she happens to be a blonde. I also said as long as a girl has hair I really don't care what color it is.

Then she asks me if she gained 10 pounds would I notice. I said I wouldn't say anything unless she told me and I'd say she'd look good no matter what. She starts saying I'm a prick, and I should've told a little white lie so I wouldn't hurt her feelings. I'm still at a total loss of what I did wrong. She can't believe I could be such a jerk and I'm trying everything to show her I never wanted to hurt her in any way. I feel like total shit now over something that got blown way out of proportion.

Does anyone have any advice or should I just forget it? I mean she can be as mad as she wants but I still want to talk to her. Am I at fault by myself?

 

[gunslingingbird]

Dude, think about it. Do you really want to seek a relationship with a girl that's so superficial that she's gonna get her panties in a bunch over your hair color preference? The whole bit about her gaining 10 pounds was a catch-22. If you said yes, she was gonna say that you are insensitive. If you said no, she was gonna say that are dishonest. My advice: delete her number from your contacts, and move on. NEXT!

 

[georges]

no need to waste your time with someone who is unstable or totally dumb.

 

[BlueBalls]

Whenever a girl asks you a question like that your automatic response to the question should be "NO" dont even think about the question just answer. By thinking about the question and giving an answer you thought was adaquate in her mind she thinks your thinking that you would mind.

All I can say is that women are crazy especially about stuff like this.


Remeber:

Girl: "blah, blah, blah, blah, blah......................blah"

You: "NO"

 

[ImASlut69]

I say you need to learn how to treat girls, any guy with half a brain would know to tell a girl "white lies" to make her feel good...real men try to make women feel good..but of course guys on here are gonna say "move on" I wouldn't expect guys on here to know how to treat girls..it's a porn site dude.

 

[dick van cock]

...real men try to make women feel good..but of course guys on here are gonna say "move on" I wouldn't expect guys on here to know how to treat girls..it's a porn site dude.

You mean that "real men" put up with a shallow chick no matter what? :dunno:

The way Violator described that girl she isn't worth five minutes of his attention.

 

[ImASlut69]

^^ btw he is talking about me, im not shallow and it didnt go the way he described it, just so everyone knows

 

[Wickedclown]

This situation sounds like as if your girlfriend has a problem which isnt her hair or her weight. I call this problem shifting and i experience a lot that people have problems they don´t dare to talk about. Instead they let her frustrations go by getting mad over nonsense stuff. Encourage her to talk about the real problem. If that doesn´t work, or if she´s really that shallow, save up your good (or bad) sides for someone who deserves it.

 

[georges]

I say you need to learn how to treat girls, any guy with half a brain would know to tell a girl "white lies" to make her feel good...real men try to make women feel good..but of course guys on here are gonna say "move on" I wouldn't expect guys on here to know how to treat girls..it's a porn site dude.

Gotta love the respect from the post 1986 born people generation towards their elder peers "sigh":wtf: People of our generation from 1977 till 1986 value respect, honor and gratitude. Many post 1986 born people are sadly and very often very void and can't have a discussion, at last but not least they are lacking heavily self confidence. I base my opinion on what I see everyday at work and in the streets. Real men like women with character, good sex driven attitude, an ability to have a conversation on many subjects and be good cooks as well as women who have high esteem for themselves and a great self confidence. Also to be honest is something real people appreciate. When you lie to someone you are a liar and you are not going to be trusted. For anyone with a sense of logic and education, this is as clear as the water coming down from the source.

 

[ImASlut69]

of course everyone is gonna gang up on me, and take his side but i really don't care he doesnt have to talk to me if he doesnt want to. whatever.

 

[Mr. Daystar]

Dude, run fast, run far, and be thankful you got to see "Sybil's" true colors before you became so invested in the relationship, that you got hurt. This chick seems just a little whackadoodle if you ask me, if you're married to a girl, and she says "honey, does this dress make my butt look big?", then You Might...MIGHT be in a situation where your best bet is to say, no sweetie, you look fine, but if you're just starting out, and she's playing these kind of games...head for the hills dude! Personally, whenever my wife asks me a question of any nature, that there is just no right answer too, I just laugh and tell her that I refuse to answer, and remind her she hasn't got me in 12 years, and she isn't gonna get me now.

 

[senob44]

^^ btw he is talking about me, im not shallow and it didnt go the way he described it, just so everyone knows

I totally didn't see that coming! :eek:

I'm going to reserve any judgement until I hear both sides of the story, as there seems to be some dispute as to how it actually went down.

 

[Marlo Manson]

I totally didn't see that coming! :eek:

I'm going to reserve any judgement until I hear both sides of the story, as there seems to be some dispute as to how it actually went down.

Whoa, Likewise, I have to remain neutral, "pleading 5th amendment" your both my friends I can't comment or rule for either side, I wish you both goodluck and I hope you work things out.. :thumbsup:

meanwhile senob I will catch you in the next thread down below!! I seem to be right behind you in every thread? :dunno:

 

[Fresno]

You guys leave her the hell alone, you guys be nice!

 

[calpoon]

Whenever a girl asks you a question like that your automatic response to the question should be "NO"

naw, man since there is no right answer, the real trick is to never answer her question. always end the question with another question, especially one that gets her to talk about herself, because that's all she wants to do anyway.

the best all around pretend-to-listen question is "well, why don't you tell me what you think about it?" and then if you absolutely have to say, "yeah. I totally agree (with whatever she just said.)"

 

[devlinvelez]

Her: "Honey does this dress make me look fat?"

Me: "Yes.........next question?"




In other words give her an honest answer.....and if she gets ballistic......Well move on.

 

[bodie54]

You guys leave her the hell alone, you guys be nice!

You mean like she was nice?

I wouldn't expect guys on here to know how to treat girls..it's a porn site dude.

Nice insult.
She asks to be treated with tact but can't deliver the same.
Looks like a double standard to me.

 

[Fresno]

I've been talking to a girl and thought things were going well. Then she says I'm a total prick because at the very beginning I said I like brunettes more than blondes, and she happens to be a blonde. I also said as long as a girl has hair I really don't care what color it is.

Then she asks me if she gained 10 pounds would I notice. I said I wouldn't say anything unless she told me and I'd say she'd look good no matter what. She starts saying I'm a prick, and I should've told a little white lie so I wouldn't hurt her feelings. I'm still at a total loss of what I did wrong. She can't believe I could be such a jerk and I'm trying everything to show her I never wanted to hurt her in any way. I feel like total shit now over something that got blown way out of proportion.

Does anyone have any advice or should I just forget it? I mean she can be as mad as she wants but I still want to talk to her. Am I at fault by myself?

Women are beautiful no mater what hair color they have and you never lie to them!

 

[dick van cock]

Nice insult.
She asks to be treated with tact but can't deliver the same.
Looks like a double standard to me.

You presume ImASlut69 to be a She?

 

[bodie54]

You presume ImASlut69 to be a She?

Only for the sake of discussion