I also agree. I've had the same thing happen to me and I tried everything and none of it worked. Once her mind is made up there's nothing you can do to change it.
Ladies (and guys) I need advice! Please help!!!
I also agree. I've had the same thing happen to me and I tried everything and none of it worked. Once her mind is made up there's nothing you can do to change it.
I too agree with Jason. If she is not willing to work things out with counseling because "he will put all the blame on her" shes telling you that she is done. Sorry pal...
She will probably regret it once she see's what it does to the children, unless she is completely heartless.:dunno:
Alyssa Rose
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Your relationship is already over in her mind. She just doesn't want to be the 'bad guy' in this situation so she keeps telling you to 'go out with friends and have your own life' she wants you to start alienating yourself from the family so that she can turn around and say that you abandoned her and the kids that you 'are never home and always out all night' shit like that. She's trying to turn this around to put the blame on you. I guarantee that if you started going out like she suggests it would only be a matter of time until she files for divorce and says that 'your never around and you just don't want to make this marriage work'. I've known women like this, actually my ex best friend was exactly like this. I could never imagine doing something like this to my husband, ever. I love him too much and if she still loved you, she wouldn't put you through this. In my honest opinion its not even about the infidelity, my marriage survived infidelity, if you really love the person you heal, forgive and move on. People are human and humans make mistakes, but like I said, this is not about the infidelity. This is about one adult treating another adult like shit on purpose and for no reason, this is about respect. If she wants out of the marriage she should just come right out and say it, there's no reason to play these stupid high school games. Please don't take offense because I really don't know her but your wife sounds very selfish and mean. I think you should keep doing what your doing, take care of your kids, your house, your life, don't give her a reason to start blaming you for anything. If she continues with how she's acting, I would file for divorce and custody of the kids, she'll throw a tantrum but the best thing you can do for yourself and your kids, is stay strong. Explain to her why your doing this (she'll already know but go ahead and give her a refresher) once its all said and done, work on yourself. You deserve better and there is better out there. Misery loves company and once your not around her anymore, you'll be happy again.
been thru it too. Sucked at first, a lot of anger. But my life is so much better without someone who doesn't care about me. Are there nights when it would be nice to have someone to come home to? Sure, but since the ex doesn't want to be that person, and I don't want her to be that person, I will continue to look for the right woman. better off making sure the kids have all they need and you have mental health.
It is better to raise the kids in two happy homes, instead of one unhappy one.
It is better to raise the kids in two happy homes, instead of one unhappy one.
Sorry to hear that sir. At this point I would be talking to a lawyer about custody at the nearest possible point in time.
Yeah, hopefully you will get custody of your kids. You sound like you love them and are a good dad. She's the one tearing the family apart.
Good luck friend.
You're right, I'm down right Hulk raging mad. But, I gotta keep my cool. Its over it's just a matter of time. She was lying about this weekend. Just found the proof I needed this afternoon. I'm not gonna play the fool anymore, but as much as I wanna go out and get drunk and meet somebody and have meaningless sex, hissexslave has the right idea, and take care of my kids. If it gets ugly, I think I have the proof to bury her. But for now "per her request" we'll be civil. Keep you all posted.
Love you guys! :bowdown:
deaded666
Well I guess this is my last post about this topic since its a little unfair that she's not here to defend herself. We're discussing divorce and who gets what and all that fun grownup stuff. To be honest, I don't wanna keep anything except my clothes, my truck and my psp. I told her I wouldn't try to take away the kids because one of them is hers from a previous marriage and I'm not legally entitled and my mom said I shouldn't separate them. I doubt that there is no other solution especially since she swears there is nobody else in the picture. The evidence or proof that I have proves otherwise, but whatever. So until next time peeps.
Take care.
EO
Take care.
EO
No you need to get this in the court records now. If she goes off the rails and starts living with a shit bag and you want to sue to get the kids out of there, you will have a tough time. Get all the bad stuff in the record you can still grant her the custody of the children and if she fucks up in the future you will have an easier time of saying you should have them instead because you willl have an established pattern of poor choices and behaviour.
Guess how I know this?
Guess how I know this?
