Hi everyone. First off, I would like to say thanks to anyone who replies to this thread with advice for me, it is greatly appreciated. I am in a very strange situation right now and I'm really not sure what I should do. I honestly have never seen a situation like the one I'm in ever before. Anyway, here's the story . . .
Back in school, I met and became friends with this girl. I hung out with her for a lot of high school and we were really good friends. I became very attached to her. I soon realized that I liked her as more than a friend. I had never had a crush on anyone before and it was all very new to me. It made me very nervous. But I couldn't help the way I felt about this girl. When I was around her I felt happy, and whenever I was away from her I wanted to be with her. Sometimes I would sit at my comp for hours waiting for her to sign on to msn so I could talk to her. Some of my friends told me I was obsessed with her, and that it wasn't a good thing. So, obviously I had to ask her out. Now, before I tell you what happened next, I need to explain some things about this girl. This girl has some emotional problems. She hates herself and she hates the way she looks. She believes she is ugly and fat, but in reality that is not true. But she is convinced that its true. She has low self-esteem and depression. She thinks no one can ever really love her because of the way that she looks and feels about herself. And because of this, she feels she cannot date anyone because of the way that she views herself. So when I asked her out, she obviously said no and became very nervous and afraid. I have always tried to help her out with her problems by telling her that she is attractive and the way that she views herself is wrong. But she won't listen to help. And now she has started to distance herself from me. It makes me very upset because of the way I feel about her. So now comes the reason I created this thread. What do you guys suggest that I do? I really want to go out with this girl and help her to like herself. So, what do you suggest I do next? ? ?
Back in school, I met and became friends with this girl. I hung out with her for a lot of high school and we were really good friends. I became very attached to her. I soon realized that I liked her as more than a friend. I had never had a crush on anyone before and it was all very new to me. It made me very nervous. But I couldn't help the way I felt about this girl. When I was around her I felt happy, and whenever I was away from her I wanted to be with her. Sometimes I would sit at my comp for hours waiting for her to sign on to msn so I could talk to her. Some of my friends told me I was obsessed with her, and that it wasn't a good thing. So, obviously I had to ask her out. Now, before I tell you what happened next, I need to explain some things about this girl. This girl has some emotional problems. She hates herself and she hates the way she looks. She believes she is ugly and fat, but in reality that is not true. But she is convinced that its true. She has low self-esteem and depression. She thinks no one can ever really love her because of the way that she looks and feels about herself. And because of this, she feels she cannot date anyone because of the way that she views herself. So when I asked her out, she obviously said no and became very nervous and afraid. I have always tried to help her out with her problems by telling her that she is attractive and the way that she views herself is wrong. But she won't listen to help. And now she has started to distance herself from me. It makes me very upset because of the way I feel about her. So now comes the reason I created this thread. What do you guys suggest that I do? I really want to go out with this girl and help her to like herself. So, what do you suggest I do next? ? ?
