(this might be a bit of a deviation of what
You Might mean)
I am one of those people at work who has to evaluate people; as a performance evaluation, per company requirements. If I can tell you one item that gives you the best shot of being friends with a person
like you, or to change your view-point on this topic is the
Lou Holtz's - Do Right Plan. 1. Do Right 2. Do everyting to the best of your ability 3. Treat others like the way you would like to be treated. While doing these. It's important to have:
A vision gives us the direction necessary to achieve our goals.
A plan is the vehicle by which we achieve our goals.
A plan consists of four key elements:
Have A Positive Attitude
Focus
Be A Dreamer
Be Passionate.
You'll find out when you do this, you can stop worrying about what everyone else thinks, including yourself. Also in doing this, you'll see how you really are without much effort at all. And at all times...never lie...as only 7% of all communications is
verbal...the rest is body-language (55%) and vocal tone (38%)...so when you speak the truth...at times it may not be what others
want to hear; but at least you will keep their trust...and that is a sub condition to LH's #3 rule...
So, in the end, I am not really worried all that much of my
self-image...as those around me see me as someone that they (in the end) can trust.