How do i get her into....

[BlaqSheep]

Hi everyone.

so just a bit of back story for you all...
I've been happily married for 3 years, going on 4 and god is she super-hot. She excites me like no other and make me happy sexually. The one issue I have is that she is not into oral. She will give it but is not interested in getting it. I can't say I'm happy about that. I was hoping to get some advice from you guys and gals. how do I get her into it? What do I do? What do i say?

hope to hear back soon with from all of you

 

[assari]

Prohibited subjects excite people.

So you say to her that you do not want that kind of activity or... you can always buy a sex doll.


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[MarquisdeSade]

If she is happy otherwise and is satisfied (in all senses) with her sex life, why it does it matter that she doesn`t want you to give her oral sex?

 

[BlaqSheep]

If she is happy otherwise and is satisfied (in all senses) with her sex life, why it does it matter that she doesn`t want you to give her oral sex?

Well, first.. yes, she is 100% satisfied. I make sure to keep her that way. But, I enjoy giving oral sex and so to me missing out on it kinda sucks (no pun).
I, and most men I know enjoy giving oral sex to their partners. All I want is to give it to her.

 

[Rey C.]

Just as with anything else that one partner enjoys and the other one doesn't, the two of you should try to have a rational conversation about it. There are no magic tricks to "get her into it". Not that this describes your wife, but some girls don't like oral sex because they have this feeling that they are "dirty" down there. Maybe others just don't like the feeling. Maybe she had a bad experience at some point that she hasn't shared with you. Maybe someone bit her or something... could be anything. You just have to talk about it. Maybe her feelings will change. Maybe they won't. But if you make somebody self-conscious about something that they don't like, they'll either get their back up and NEVER do it out of spite (that would be me), or they'll do it out of some sense of duty to you and then be resentful toward you.

 

[Deepcover]

Maybe she would rather want a girl give it to her then a guy? :dunno:

 

[Death-Proof-69]

she has a reason for not liking it. there's no trick to getting girls to like anything. talk to her and figure it out and if you have to go there you have to make her feel like she can trust you down there. she has to feel comfortable with you doing it for it to happen. don't be surprised if she can't get over her issues with being eaten out and if she can't then don't pressure her about it any more.

 

[C.K. Lawrence]

Are you any good? Why don't you just lick her a lot all over and go from there?

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[DR. B]

I doubt you're even married, but for the sake of argument let's say you are, this is what I would do..... oh wait the phillies game is on

 

[TheSpokenWheel]

If she's satisfied, then let it be. Perhaps ask her if there's anything else you can do for her. Something she's always wanted to try or something. Otherwise, just be happy together.

 

[BlaqSheep]

I doubt you're even married, but for the sake of argument let's say you are, this is what I would do..... oh wait the phillies game is on

First, to respond to your silly comment.. We are married and very much in love.
We have a very open relationship and know that communication is the key to make this work. We're both very attracted to one another but she was never a big fan of getting oral sex. We've had several conversations about it and from what she's explained, the feeling is just too intense for her. maybe i should have mentioned this in my first post. I just really want to eat her out, that's all.

 

[BigSwede]

Why do you want to ruin a good thing?
If she doesn't like it, she doesn't like it.

 

[Mr. Daystar]

Tell her to look at the bright side, at least you don't want to fist her ass, or piss in her mouth.

 

[Facetious]

A. She's ticklish

B. You need instruction on how to make her clit buzz with joy, i.e. you're not doing it right perhaps.
Tell her that it would mean a lot to you if she could offer you any special instructions about what she might like, you know technique bro.

C. Just think, there are thousands upon thousands of guys out there who would love to have your 'problem'.

 

[Death-Proof-69]

First, to respond to your silly comment.. We are married and very much in love.
We have a very open relationship and know that communication is the key to make this work. We're both very attracted to one another but she was never a big fan of getting oral sex. We've had several conversations about it and from what she's explained, the feeling is just too intense for her. maybe i should have mentioned this in my first post. I just really want to eat her out, that's all.

ahh ok. well if it's that then just be soft and go slow so it's not too intense. don't do light contact though as that will tickle, just work at it slowly now and again so she can get used to the feeling so it can become enjoyable and less of a shock to her. if nothing else you might hit up a sex shop for some vagina safe numbing gel if you don't mind your tongue feeling numb lol. might help make it less intense so she can get used to it better.

 

[BlaqSheep]

A. She's ticklish

B. You need instruction on how to make her clit buzz with joy, i.e. you're not doing it right perhaps.
Tell her that it would mean a lot to you if she could offer you any special instructions about what she might like, you know technique bro.

C. Just think, there are thousands upon thousands of guys out there who would love to have your 'problem'.

It's not that I'm not doing it right, i just dont do it at all. I'm not going to do something she doesnt want me to unless she approves.

 

[EvW29]

It does take some trust to do that sort of thing, I'd say talk to her about it(lord knows I can't tell you how to address the negotiations), but try to negotiate with her and and ask what she likes having and then agree accordingly. It's no issue that you like oral sex it's just if the woman has reservations doing it, that's a hard thing to do.

 

[BlaqSheep]

It does take some trust to do that sort of thing, I'd say talk to her about it(lord knows I can't tell you how to address the negotiations), but try to negotiate with her and and ask what she likes having and then agree accordingly. It's no issue that you like oral sex it's just if the woman has reservations doing it, that's a hard thing to do.

I cant make it clear enough.. it really has nothing to do with trust. Our relationship is really unique, or at least we'd like to think it is. We trust eachother completely. We've done things, sexually that some might consider taboo even. But me giving oral to her just doesn't seem to be in her 'to do' list.
She never had a bad experience either. She just doesn't get it. Why would anyone want to put their face there? you know?... in any case, I'm working on it. Still hoping for advice from anyone with any to share. It's just important to me that you guys understand that this isn't a trust issue or anything like that.