As my marriage was spiraling down hill, it took my ex to only say it once. "If you don't like it here then just leave." It was something I had never considered up to that point. But once those words came out of her mouth my decision was made, good bye. I calmly stopped the conversation and started throwing shit into a suitcase. At this point she is now telling me that I was putting on a show and she isn't buying into it. "Are things going to change?' I asked. As she went on about how right she was about everything I told her that I wanted a yes or no answer. Whatever she said after that was a blur but I did not hear anything about compromise or even talking the situation out. I was ready to stop at any time and did want to stay IF she was willing to see my side on any of the issues that brought us to that point. Nothing. She stayed 100% behind everything that she stood for.
When she saw me loading things into the car she asked me why was I doing this. I reminded her of the choice that she gave me and this was my decision. Somewhere in her mind she didn't think that I had balls the size of hers but she was dead wrong. From that moment I was STILL waiting for some movement from her as I was going back to pick up more stuff over the course of the week. Nothing. All I heard was how much of a bad decision I was making and how childish I was acting. I asked her that if the situation was reversed then she would have made the same decision to leave. I'm just following the same advice she would give herself.
Vodks, shit or get off the pot. Make a choice of how you want to live and follow through. Without risks there are no rewards. It is better to make a bad decision then no decision at all.
That is worth rep.
The only thing that would give me pause was if there were children involved. Not saying I still wouldn't leave, but I wouldn't be able to do it as abruptly as that.