Do you think it makes a guy a bad person if he will not marry a woman who has

[FOACCOUNT!@#$%]

been with a lot of dudes?

Okay so lets say a guy is rich and everything and he is living a comfortable life. Now all of a sudden a woman he knew in college wants to try and marry him but the thing is that this girl has been with about 10 other guys. Now me personally, I cannot see myself marrying a girl like that. People get mad at me for my opinion but I just cannot be that guy.

Okay like if you don't get what I am saying let me clear it up. A girl has been with 5 or 10 other guys and she has been all freaky with them and stuff, she has showed them her goods. I end up being the guy she "settles" down with and to make things worse I am probably going to be the guy she ends up not giving much to. I will probably be the guy that works and she will rarely show me any of her freaky side and when it comes to getting "busy" I will get the bad side of the deal.

I mean I get basically "wasted goods". I just cannot see myself marrying a woman who has been with so many guys. Does that make me a bad person?

 

[Ulysses31]

There are a number of factors to consider. No women is going to spend decades of her life not dating anyone so age is a factor, most women especially in their 30s or 40s are likley to have several relationshops under their belt unless they married young and recently got divorced. You may find girls in their late teens or 20s that may have only had a few previous boyfriends. If a girl had been in several relationships before but they had been long term committed relationships then it shouldn't be a problem but if she had a tendency to go out picking up men for one night stands then she may not seem like marriage material, the guy might love her but maybe his friends will mock him over the guys she's slept with and how easy she used to be etc. I'm sure everyone would like to have a wife untouched by any man but you gotta get real to the real world, the best you can look for is for her previous relationships to have been long and committed and not seedy encounters in dark alleyways with multiple strange men. Some people also have strict standards when theoretically discussing a wife yet when a woman comes along they love and want to marry they would hardly dump her if she doesn't meet all of the set requirements.

 

[FOACCOUNT!@#$%]

Well what about marrying women from the far east? They have strict culture over there.

 

[GodsEmbryo]

It is ok for men to fuck around but not for women? That's hypocrite.

 

[GregCentauro]

I think a guy is a fucking moron if he's preoccupied with his partner's sexual history.

 

[FOACCOUNT!@#$%]

I think a guy is a fucking moron if he's preoccupied with his partner's sexual history.

I say he has standards, I mean wouldn't it hurt a dude's self esteem if he is a part of the woman's plan?

1. Get with the bad boy
2. Enjoy sexual life
3. Settle down with the nice guy
4. Have sex with him once a week and let just enjoy the wealth he brings

 

[sayvara]

I say he has standards

I say he has bad standards, if he'd reject marrying a woman just because he has had many partners.

/S

 

[Rey C.]

I think a guy is a fucking moron if he's preoccupied with his partner's sexual history.

I hope you're not suggesting that a (real) marriage should be based on love and mutual respect! That's just crazy
talk.

All I want is a beautiful virgin with big titties, who'll give it up whenever I want some! And whether I have money or not, I bet we'd stay married a loooooong time. See, I like to keep it real!

 

[sayvara]

I mean I get basically "wasted goods". I just cannot see myself marrying a woman who has been with so many guys. Does that make me a bad person?

Short answer: uhm.... yes, sort of. But please go on reading until the very end of this post.

Long answer: A human being is not a piece of goods... she's not a car... a thing... an item that wears. Objects are used and get worn. But human beings are not objects.

No... you're not bad because of it... but I think - this my personal opinion - that you are measuring women by the wrong yard-stick. You are looking at an irrelevant quality of the human in question and rejecting her because of this irrelevant quality what is only valid on objects.

In general, I think the notion that a woman is "better" the less sex she has had, is a rotten and denigrating notion. I think it's wrong to measure the worth of a human being by that yard-stick.

BUT(!)...

...of course you shouldn't marry someone you don't want to marry. That would be wrong on so many levels. I cannot say that I agree with the argument. I think it's a bad argument, I don't deny that. But... if you think it's relevant and you wish to stick to that... that is your choice... and I cannot, will not, and don't want to force you to abandon it.

/S

 

[FOACCOUNT!@#$%]

I say he has bad standards, if he'd reject marrying a woman just because he has had many partners.

/S

How do you know he has had many partners?

 

[Supafly]

It is ok for men to fuck around but not for women? That's hypocrite.

If a man fucked around a lot, if I was a woman, I sure won't be along with him, let alone marry him.

If someone has that fever, the person will probably not stop it.

 

[STDiva]

I watched a movie about this topic a while ago....what was it called now? Oh ya. Forrest Gump.

Revamp, why are you assuming that she won't be a freak with you now that she has settled with you? She could just as easily be a pro and rock you world 5 times a week. Besides, it's a n00b move to hold someone's sexual history against them. Don't be a n00b.

 

[FOACCOUNT!@#$%]

I just cannot see myself as THAT guy ya know. The guy the woman resorts to being with after she has learned that the bad boys treat her like dirt.

I mean I even get the bad end of the deal, how do I know she is not going to treat me like dirt and give me limited sex?

Maybe it is my mindset and ego, I just cannot be another page in her book and that is what I will be.

 

[FOACCOUNT!@#$%]

If a man fucked around a lot, if I was a woman, I sure won't be along with him, let alone marry him.

If someone has that fever, the person will probably not stop it.

LOL double standards. Women can call men all they want yet it is okay for them to get with scumbags.

I am in a relationship but my real close friend (White guy, nerdy and unfortunately wimpy) is an engineer. This one girl is really trying to get with him and the thing is he says she turned him down when he asked her out in high school. She ended up getting screwed by a guy who is in jail and leaves her with a child. Now she is trying to get with him and I mean I cannot see myself in those shoes.

My friend keeps turning her down and he is planning on going to a foreign country and get a wife from another country. If I was single, I would really do the same thing.

 

[ForumModeregulator]

people fuck shit up when they try to take their sexuality and mix it with morality...


sexuality is very important part of being human. if there was an actual risk (HIV/Vagina death trap) then yes, but otherwise refusing to marry somebody because of social pressures and influences (tha being marrying sluts is bad) is ludicrous.

 

[FOACCOUNT!@#$%]

people fuck shit up when they try to take their sexuality and mix it with morality...


sexuality is very important part of being human. if there was an actual risk (HIV/Vagina death trap) then yes, but otherwise refusing to marry somebody because of social pressures and influences (tha being marrying sluts is bad) is ludicrous.

lol, I won't marry a pornstar

 

[ragincaucasian]

How many is too many?

5 guys you marry
6 guys you wont?


Sounds like you're the one who is screwed up in this relationship, not her

 

[SpexyAshleigh]

The only way it doesn't make you a bad person is if you hold yourself to the same standard that you hold women. If you don't sleep around, and your number of sexual partners is less than 5, then thats perfectly acceptable. I don't sleep around and I wouldn't date a guy who did either. But answer me this - are you more concerned with the number of partners, or are you more concerned with if they were casual encounters or not? Because women have relationships, most of which don't work out. Women have sex with those that they're in love with. And when the relationship eventually ends, there's another notch on her bedpost. I'd understand completely if you didn't want to be with a woman who's had ten one-nite-stands, but if you're prejudice against women who just happened to have had alot of serious relationships...then thats pretty fucked up.

I honestly and truly hope to god though that you're going to tell me that you've only slept with two or three women. Otherwise this thread is fucking stupid, and you're a douchenozzle. This world is a two way street, and women have every right to fuck around if they should please without being judged by hypocritcal losers.

 

[HeLovesPorn]

The only way it doesn't make you a bad person is if you hold yourself to the same standard that you hold women. If you don't sleep around, and your number of sexual partners is less than 5, then thats perfectly acceptable. I don't sleep around and I wouldn't date a guy who did either. But answer me this - are you more concerned with the number of partners, or are you more concerned with if they were casual encounters or not? Because women have relationships, most of which don't work out. Women have sex with those that they're in love with. And when the relationship eventually ends, there's another notch on her bedpost. I'd understand completely if you didn't want to be with a woman who's had ten one-nite-stands, but if you're prejudice against women who just happened to have had alot of serious relationships...then thats pretty fucked up.

I honestly and truly hope to god though that you're going to tell me that you've only slept with two or three women. Otherwise this thread is fucking stupid, and you're a douchenozzle. This world is a two way street, and women have every right to fuck around if they should please without being judged by hypocritcal losers.

While I don't agree with you calling others Losers (so sorry Ash, but I don't believe in this whole "losers" and "winners" thing--life is just a life, and we live it--it's not a video game console where you can officially lose... so sorry just my own use of pop-psychology that I believe in breifly there, and I'm personally dick of people using that phrase myself. just a personal thing), I fully understand where you are comin' from, Ash. Seriously it would be fucked up if he was more or less simply against intense/regular serious relationships.

As for a woman's partners: I feel we're all sexual human beings and I've always seriously cared less as long as a certain body part of you-know-what wasn't way too loose and she was mentally stable and disease free and we got along fairly well. But of course women have every right to mess around with out being judged, but of course. Alas sex, like everything in life, IS a two way street indeed. Fairly good way of puttin' it like that, Ash.

 

[SpexyAshleigh]

While I don't agree with you calling others Losers (so sorry Ash, but I don't believe in this whole "losers" and "winners" thing--life is just a life, and we live it--it's not a video game console where you can officially lose... so sorry just my own use of pop-psychology that I believe in breifly there, and I'm personally dick of people using that phrase myself. just a personal thing), I fully understand where you are comin' from, Ash. Seriously it would be fucked up if he was more or less simply against intense/regular serious relationships.

As for a woman's partners: I feel we're all sexual human beings and I've always seriously cared less as long as a certain body part of you-know-what wasn't way too loose and she was mentally stable and disease free and we got along fairly well. But of course women have every right to mess around with out being judged, but of course. Alas sex, like everything in life, IS a two way street indeed. Fairly good way of puttin' it like that, Ash.

Well, hypocrites ARE losers. Looking at life with a "holier than thou" attitude makes you a piss poor person IMO. But thats just my opinion, obviously yours differs and thats cool too. I just hate hypocrites more than anything....especially when its a man having opinions on how a woman should be.