Dating 101: How To Be A Total Man-Magnet...

[ChefChiTown]

Dating tip #1: Go out in groups of no bigger than three. Larger groups of girls are supertough (read: intimidating) to approach. Three is a good number because your two friends can keep each other company when a guy walks up to chat with you.

Dating tip #3: Smile genuinely. So obvious, right? But I can't stress it enough -- and I can't believe I ever acted aloof in an attempt to seem more cool. Now I know that women smile all the time naturally (when we're nervous, when we're trying to be polite, etc.), so if you don't do it at all, you look unapproachable.

Dating tip #4: Work the eye contact. To reel him in from across the room, tilt your chin down a bit and flash him a couple of sultry glances. (Guys love it when you look up at them -- it makes them feel manly.) If the guy across the room is so gorgeous you have a hard time looking straight at him and are simply too nervous, fake it by focusing on the tiny area right between his eyes. He won't be able to tell the difference.

Dating tip #5: Don't immediately ask him what he does. Some men think all women are gold diggers. A lot of my clients hated being asked what their job is. It's that fear-of-being-used thing again.

Dating tip #6: Make positive small talk. Once I started studying other women, I couldn't believe how negative some of us appear. When you're out on the town, you're supposed to be having fun, and any complaint ("It's hot in here!"), pessimism ("There will definitely be another terrorist attack"), or snarky quip ("Look at that chick's belt -- so 2002!") pretty much pokes a hole in the fun-girl aura you should be projecting. Some better small-talk topics: recent vacations, favorite bands, hilarious movies. You can hit him with your deep, dark world-view some other time.

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ChefChiTown's Dating Tip #1 - Don't take relationship advice from somebody who isn't even smart enough to realize that they completely forgot to put a "Tip #2" in their collection of tips on dating, especially when there is only 6 total tips to begin with.

 

[Becks...poamr]

Well, hell, now I know why I ended up the way I have. Thanks, stupid chick with badly numbered dating tips!! :wave:

 

[Will E Worm]

Dating tip #2 :dunno:

Apparently the only tip anyone needs is be a heartless "bad boy", punk. Females seem to love it.

That's why they are always with them.

Females could save themselves a lot of trouble by dating nicer guys.
But, why would anyone want to use their brain?

 

[calpoon]

but it doesn't really work like that. if you try to be an asshole to attract women, they will hate you. If you are sincerely an asshole and you don't care about attracting women, then they will love you.

basically what it really comes down to is that a woman is either going to like you or not, and nothing that you can try to do to persuade her will change her mind in a positive way.

Am I wrong ladies?

 

[hedonis]

Hedonis Dating Tip #1- Don't take advice. Ever. Just relax, be yourself, and have a good time.



Oh, the irony of my advice. To not take advice...

It's circular. Like a carousel. You put the quarter in, and it goes around, and up and down. A circle. Circular.

 

[calpoon]

Ok, so i'm going to be stressed out, act like someone else and have a shitty time.

I didn't need to ignore your advice to do that, hedonis.

 

[Will E Worm]

Nope, women would rather be with guys that treat them badly.
Even if they have a nice guy they look around for someone else.

Rather than be with a nice guy that will treat them right.
I'm not saying everyone of them, just too many of them.
Just look at some of the past comments on here.

Smallville206 Seems nice enough, but his girlfriend wants to be in porn. I guess the grass is always greener....


ToastedOats 2 years and 8 months, wasn't enough for her.

Montrealman
Developped a fling for some moron manipulator. His words.

 

[hedonis]

Ok, so i'm going to be stressed out, act like someone else and have a shitty time.

I didn't need to ignore your advice to do that, hedonis.

Yeah, maybe people *should* take advice. But only mine.

And for money.


H

 

[senob44]

Freeones needs more articles like this on how to pick up men. There is a growing contingent among this board for whom this information is on a NEED to know basis!

...fun-girl aura you should be projecting.

I try and try for that "fun-girl aura". Frilly skirts, barrettes, and cheeky sunglasses only go so far when you're 6'1", 245 and have long sideburns.

 

[Galactic]

Hedonis Dating Tip #1- Don't take advice. Ever. Just relax, be yourself, and have a good time.



Oh, the irony of my advice. To not take advice...

It's circular. Like a carousel. You put the quarter in, and it goes around, and up and down. A circle. Circular.

I'm nominating this for post of the week. Best advice I've seen on here......AND IT'S TRUE!:thumbsup:

 

[Dawn]

I have found tip number 2!

 

[DukeLaCrosse]

dating tip #3. be a black man

 

[No_Man]

Speaking as someone who is happily married to a beautiful woman, I can say that the turning point in my dating life was when I stopped caring about what my date thought of me. I stopped trying to dress trendy, or impress her with the places I took her, or be the uber-gentleman. I went from taking her to an expensive restaurant across town to taking her to a custard shop a few blocks from my apartment. I stopped worrying about every word I said, and just chatted with her like one of my buddies. I basically just relaxed and treated the date as a side note on an otherwise fulfilling life. Almost immediately my string of "one and done" dates ended and I started having girls ask to see me again and again. And then I met my wife.

 

[jibbijib]

Speaking as someone who is happily married to a beautiful woman, I can say that the turning point in my dating life was when I stopped caring about what my date thought of me. I stopped trying to dress trendy, or impress her with the places I took her, or be the uber-gentleman. I went from taking her to an expensive restaurant across town to taking her to a custard shop a few blocks from my apartment. I stopped worrying about every word I said, and just chatted with her like one of my buddies. I basically just relaxed and treated the date as a side note on an otherwise fulfilling life. Almost immediately my string of "one and done" dates ended and I started having girls ask to see me again and again. And then I met my wife.

'Bout fucking time someone got it right.


It's not about being too nice, or being an asshole. It's about treating them like a buddy. It makes them want more of you, and creates that attraction factor.


All of these tips and shit you get are all for "virtual worlds". Bars and clubs are virtual playgrounds. That's what alot of these dating tip's fail to mention. And most of these tips are meant for the bars and clubs.

The reason you see people who get sick of the bar scene is because they are sick of playing in a fake world and want something real.

And no one said that just because you're not great lookin, you can't get a good lookin girl.

 

[Will E Worm]

It's not about being too nice, or being an asshole. It's about treating them like a buddy. It makes them want more of you, and creates that attraction factor.

I'd rather have a wife that is feminine and acts like a lady, not a "buddy".

If I had sex with my buddies, I would be a homersexual. :tongue:

 

[jibbijib]

^^^ You're getting it wrong. You treat them like a buddy. Think of how you treat your buddies. That's how women want you to treat them. That's why they get jealous of your buddies when your hanging out with them and her. She wants to be talked to like one of the guys, being joked on and all that jazz. She sees that you are close to your buddies, and that you'd take a bullet for any one of them, and she wants that too. No it doesn't mean she has to burp and fart and make lewd comments and watch sports and UFC and drink beer, work on cars and take you out to strip clubs on your birthday. It just means that you need to treat her like you would a good friend. You can trust that whatever you say won't bother them, and you accept that she can say shit back to you, and you will still love her no matter what. Also the fact that you'll be there for her in times of need. Plus, you will always want to have fun with her.

Women want to have fun in their lives. They aren't all for seriousness like all of you think. If you have fun with a woman, she will connect with you on a much deeper level than if you were to blatantly be serious and cliche. (Meaning telling her poems and that her eyes are like gazing at the stars and that you wanna have long walks on the beach and talk about romance and love and all that bullshit.)

Having inside jokes with a woman is powerful. Because if someone else mentions something thats linked to that inside joke, she will laugh to herself and think of you. Think about it, when you and your buddies have an inside joke, you feel like an elite group of guys that are over and above whoever else that doesn't get it. Which is everyone basically.

Women go for men with a high social value, and treating them like a buddy demonstrates that. It shows them that you don't care if it offends someone, or if it makes someone laugh. It only matters to you that you, and the people you know, get it. And when they have to work towards being in your circle, they eat it up. Everyone wants to be friends with the guy that brings fun everywhere he goes. Women are attracted to that.

And I wish I could have responded to Montrealman's thread in time, with the experice I just went through. It could have saved him big time. Seems he hasn't been here in over half a year, and I'd like to see how he is faring.

 

[Will E Worm]

That's how women want you to treat them. That's why they get jealous of your buddies when your hanging out with them and her.

You can trust that whatever you say won't bother them, and you accept that she can say shit back to you, and you will still love her no matter what. Also the fact that you'll be there for her in times of need. Plus, you will always want to have fun with her.

I don't have many guys to hang out with, I'd rather have a female to be with.
I'd definitely take a bullet for her.

Also, I'd rather not fight, verbally or physically with her. We can talk things out or be quite until whatever it is passes.

Fun...like flea markets, shopping, vacations and.....

 

[maildude]

Another thing. Always remember: chicks want sex just as much as you do. :nanner:

 

[wigster]

Another thing. Always remember: chicks want sex just as much as you do. :nanner:

Why can i never find those chicks

 

[jibbijib]

You are trying too hard, that's why.