Crying during masturbation

[sputnikgirl]

So, I was re-watching Mulholland Dr. and my boyfriend and I started discussing the scene where Naomi Watts is crying while masturbating. I personally have never experienced it, but I'm wondering how common it actually is. My boyfriend, on the other hand, says he's experienced it several years ago due to his friendship with a married woman - basically an unrequited love type of relationship.

To me, sadness and horniness don't mix. When I'm depressed and/or sad, I want to cry or sleep. When I'm horny, I want to have sex or masturbate. Sadness/depression kills any sexual feelings, at least in my mind. It seems pretty masochistic to integrate something supposed to bring pleasure with painful emotions. My boyfriend argues that it's an indicator of how deep your passion runs for another person. He says it has more to do with lonely feelings you can't control, which I agree with (to an extent).

Since Mulholland Dr. was written by David Lynch, I wondered if maybe it was a phenomenon unique to males. I've never heard of any females doing this, but it's hard to get many women (even women my age) to admit to masturbating, much less doing it while crying. So, what's everyone's opinion? :dunno:

 

[bodie54]

To me, sadness and horniness don't mix.

They don't for me either.

 

[senob44]

In my own experience I can't even really imagine this. I suppose if someone was very lonely, or like your boyfriend said, there is an unrequited love situation, this could happen. It would be interesting which comes first, the crying or the masturbation.

I'm with you two though...sadness and horniness don't mix for me.

 

[Bigoldowls]

Perhaps they are not doing it correctly and therefore making them feel very frustrated which then leads to the crying?

 

[AndyHunter]

I cried during masturbation once.
When I shot my muck on my new shirt - I was aiming for my socks!

 

[Sicario]

They don't for me either.

Me three.

 

[dick van cock]

Since Mulholland Dr. was written by David Lynch [...]

You have your answer right there.

I can say that I personally never have experienced any tear-jerking (off) nor have I met any ladies in radiators, septuagenarians who travel long distance by lawnmower(*) or inmates who change their physique over night.


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(*) I know that this is a true story, but something like that doesn't happen where I live. We have affordable public transport in Europe. :tongue:

 

[Brown Eyes]

I don't see how it would be possible to combine the two. Mental (and physical) pleasure with mental pain.

I know when I'm feeling down in the dumps my sexual charge completely subsides and cannot be retrieved until I am back in good mental shape. Crying is different to depression, and can even come from happiness, but I still don't see how you could masturbate while you cry. The two seem totally incompatible.

I can imagine crying straight afterwards though!

 

[Quagmire33]

seems quite unusual and fairly absurd

 

[jibbijib]

I've done it. Kills the mood instantly.

Right now I can't even imagine touching myself.

 

[dave_rhino]

A girl cried while I was getting her off, that was fucking wierd.

She later explained it's because she knew one day I would leave her, and that made her sad. Made me scared...

 

[minidog]

:rofl2:

 

[Patrick_S]

I don´t think David Lynch´s movies are the best place to look for "normal" or "common" human behaviour (but it would be kind of entertaining to walk into a room and find a bunch of prostitutes doing a dance routine to "The Loco Motion").

 

[titsrock]

Seems very bizarre, to me, to cry during masturbation. I only wank when I'm horny. Period. When I'm lonely or depressed...wanking or sex are the furthest things from my mind. I usually want to rid the feeling of loneliness or depression and usually this means going to hang out a coffeeshop with something to read or taking a drive...:dunno:

Extreme passion is usually a positive thing...if you are so into someone and can't get them out of your mind..it's not sadness that dominates..it's eagerness or euphoria over the possibility of being when that person...

I've never seen "Mulholland Drive"...btw.

 

[ArabJames]

never heard of this....this is strange

 

[1n$4n3]

Funniest thread today :rofl::thumbsup:

 

[sputnikgirl]

So I'm guessing it isn't very common then. I tried researching it, but I couldn't find any psychological or medical info about it. It's good to know there aren't a lot of unhappy masturbators out there, I guess. For now, I guess I'll chalk it up to David Lynch's odd perspectives on life...

titsrock, Mulholland Drive is a good movie, if you occasionally like to be confused and disturbed. It's hard to make me freaked out, but if I watch it too late at night, I can't sleep. David Lynch has a way of making everything simultaneously appear normal and horribly wrong.

 

[Quagmire33]

maybe it's like some people unexplainably cry cause they are so happy. Maybe people who are masterbating are so happy also in the sensation it is giving them that they cry too.

 

[mongo18]

Well if there's one thing porn has taught me it's that a crying woman is ready for sex. Maybe she was crying but there weren't any plumbers or pool cleaners around so she just had to do it herself?

 

[pro8]

Well if there's one thing porn has taught me it's that a crying woman is ready for sex. Maybe she was crying but there weren't any plumbers or pool cleaners around so she just had to do it herself?

LOL! Apparently its because the director "pushed her too much" so it made her emotional.