Christianity... Is It Worth Putting Up With For A Girl?

[alexpnz]

Though I usually cringe when people put there personal lives on here, I'm gonna reach in a little and ask some advice.
Long story short, been in love with a girl (bosses daughter! *gulp!*) for a loooong time, we've been friends, I finally broke it down to her today and she seemed a little interested.
Only bomb she dropped was that she was into Christianity (which I knew) and that she needed a man who was into the same things as her and wanted to get right with god first before getting back into a relationship (shes divorced 2 years).

I've heard horror stories about dealing with Christians and that it was usually THEIR way or no way...I've been in love with this chick for years and I've made up my mind to do whatever it takes........I'm about as holy as Swiss Cheese and go to church for weddings and funerals only!

I'd ask Will E. but hes not available lately!
:dunno:

 

[lurkingdirk]

Don't plan to be long term with someone that is passionate about a faith in which you don't believe. Faith like that is a huge part of her life, and that's a huge part of her life in which you are not going to share. So you're starting out with a major handicap.

That's my input. But I'm just shy of legally retarded.

 

[Shifty]

So you're saying that she is very religious, or a practicing Christian?

 

[darkwarrior3007]

If you have to change who you are or your convictions just to go out with a girl then no she's not worth it.

 

[PlumpRump]

Though I usually cringe when people put there personal lives on here, I'm gonna reach in a little and ask some advice.
Long story short, been in love with a girl (bosses daughter! *gulp!*) for a loooong time, we've been friends, I finally broke it down to her today and she seemed a little interested.
Only bomb she dropped was that she was into Chriatianity (which I knew) and that she needed a man who was into the same things as her and wanted to get right with god first before getting back into a relationship (shes divorced 2 years).

I've heard horror stories about dealing with Christians and that it was usually THEIR way or no way...I've been in love with this chick for years and I've made up my mind to do whatever it takes........I'm about as holy as Swiss Cheese and go to church for weddings and funerals only!
:dunno:

2 things:
1. Swiss cheese is pretty holy, so I'd say that's a good start.
2. You'd better start capitalizing the word "God," or you're doomed with this girl already.

To answer your question though, I guess it depends on first, figuring out how much and in what ways you would have to change and then, deciding if those things are sacrifices you're willing to make to be with her. That's not really an answer is it? Oh, well. I stand by it.

 

[pete rose]

Just ask yourself "is this really worth putting up with?"

 

[lurkingdirk]

Just ask yourself "is this really worth putting up with?"

Didn't he just ask us that?

:dunno:

 

[alexpnz]

So you're saying that she is very religious, or a practicing Christian?

For lack of better terms, she "found" it after she divorced according to her.
So I guess she's very religious!?
I don't know anything about that shit....I'm like Al Pacino in that movie Devil's Advocate, If I put my finger in the holy water it would probably boil! :1orglaugh

 

[Shifty]

For lack of better terms, she "found" it after she divorced according to her.
So I guess she's very religious!?
I don't know anything about that shit....I'm like Al Pacino in that movie Devil's Advocate, If I put my finger in the holy water it would probably boil! :1orglaugh

So, a 'born again' Christian - type(?) Well, what I can say is that they are quite different from 'non-born again' Christians.

Which is about as helpful as a kick in the nuts.

 

[Jagger69]

Personally, I wouldn't be able to go there if she's an evangelical. It's a cult as far as I am concerned. Unless you are willing to brainwash yourself to concur with the Christian dogma, pass her by would be my advice. And don't try to fake it....it won't work. I could never have a serious relationship with anyone for whom Christianity was the driving force in their life.

Just my :2 cents:. Good luck.

 

[PirateKing]

Corrupt her.

 

[alexpnz]

So, a 'born again' Christian - type(?) Well, what I can say is that they are quite different from 'non-born again' Christians.

Which is about as helpful as a kick in the nuts.

I dont know, the whole shit confuses me.? :dunno:
"Born again" or "Practicing".....all I know is that shes hot and that "one" that every guy has and If I have to stop saying things like "Goddamn it", "For Gods sake" and "Jesus Christ" when I'm pissed off, so be it...cant be that Goddamned hard!?

(damn, gotta work on that shit! )

 

[BlueBalls]

Just say you're down with JC :fist bump: even if you really aren't. Lying to yourself is a healthy and large part of any relationship, so get used to it, it'll give you much needed practice in order to impress the next flock who waft your way whenever the time comes. Go to church with her, cry at the same passages she cries at, give 10% of your monthly salary to the church like a good little Christian boy. But just be sure you're getting as much ass as humanly possible as some sort of compensation.

You may even get a promotion out of it which is always nice I suppose.

What's a lifetime of lying to yourself when you can get a raise and fuck something, right?

 

[STDiva]

If you have to change who you are or your convictions just to go out with a girl then no she's not worth it.

:hatsoff:

 

[316sherm]

Women say alot of things in the beginning...just play along, she'll come around. When she does, hold on!:nanner:

 

[alexpnz]

Just say you're down with JC :fist bump: even if you really aren't. Lying to yourself is a healthy and large part of any relationship. Go to church with her, cry at the same passages she cries at, give 10% to the church like a good little Christian boy, but just make sure you're getting as much ass as humanly possible.

You may even get a promotion out of it which is always nice I suppose.

What's a lifetime of lying to yourself when you can get a raise and fuck something, right?

Brilliant minds think alike....

 

[Ulysses31]

To be into religion you need to have a lot of faith and accept things as truth even though they might sound ridiculous (ie noahs ark, concept of heaven/hell, hymn singing). If you find you think of most these things as BS you won't be able to even pretend to be religious and it'll make you depressed pretending to be someone you're not with beliefs you don'y really have. You can go on a 'trial' as it were (try not to get too deep so as not to hurt her) and see how life is with her and how much religious exposure there is. At least then if it doesn't work out you won't have any regrets as you'll know you tried but it didn't make you happy.

 

[Shifty]

In any case, I'd give it a go. It's worth a try. As long as she's not a zealot, things shouldn't be too bad. :dunno:

 

[MrZiggles]

Based on the way you phrased the question, I'd advise her not to go out with you.

 

[STDiva]

Putting up with? Sounds like you won't have to put up with it, you'll have to accept it.