I too think that blowjobs are excessive in scenes. Alot of scenes even have a blowjob as a transition between each position. Its only a reflection of how most porn productions are still corny and boring as fuck.
Good read.
Since you mentioned that its "deeper and more psychological" could you answer some questions?
What is the part that you love the most? (planning for sex, after sex, or at the very end when she's telling you how much better he is then you)
Is it always the same scenario or do you get...