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Timbo9627

im 20 and been considering an ******...i do have a gf but we have sex about once 2 twice a month....and when we do have sex its almost pointless...its just boring.no oral, anal, foreplay, no moaing, and always always missionary...and she doesnt cheat on me i know that for a fact.....just take pants off and fuck for 15 mins then go to *****......She says im not aloud to look at porn and she thinks all i think about is sex...which i do think about sex alot but that is not it....so what im asking was is an ****** worth it??? i have the money to get any type and any ****** im just nervous about doing it and if its worth it....any advice would help.... thx

ps i do love her but the sex is just horrible...i have more fun lookin at porn then having sex with her.....
 
time to get another gf. you have your needs and she doesn't want to address them. but, her needs on the other hand...well, i'm sure you go above and beyond.
 
There are limitations with an ****** as well so dont' go that route. You just need to find a freak that's willing to give you want you want every now and then. Trust me they are out there and you don't have to worry about a commitment or relationship either. Good luck.
 
Timbo9627 said:
She says im not aloud to look at porn
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What is that **** all about? My live in gf and I don't have sex that much, few times a month. She always has a different excuse! Plus I've been a dick lately...could be lack of pussy, ya think? Anyway, she doesn't care that I look at porn, which is good as if it weren't for porn, I'd be finding someone else to fuck on the side!
 
OK here goes, I will say the same thing I have said before. First though, please reread your post.

Talk to her, be serious and put your feelings on the table. She needs to give more, ask her to please share and grow with you sexually. That "yes" sex is a very important thing to you. Its not as good as you feel it could be right now..etc etc Bottom line, if she loves you as you do her, she will understand and work at making it better.

You are on the 15th floor ledge right now friend and once you lean forward its a long drop down that your relationship won't survive. Cheating is cheating, having no emotional involvement or using a ****** won't change that fact. I feel the risk of loss is higher in the ****** way, its a temporary fix (band-aid) that won't solve the problem or heal the source of it. You risk you and your gf catching something or worse getting caught and everyone hurt over something that you may have been able to work out. Stay where your heart and your trust is. Come back in the window and try the other route first, honesty and communication. Good luck.

LL
 
Timbo9627 said:
im 20 and been considering an ******...i do have a gf but we have sex about once 2 twice a month....and when we do have sex its almost pointless...its just boring.no oral, anal, foreplay, no moaing, and always always missionary...and she doesnt cheat on me i know that for a fact.....just take pants off and fuck for 15 mins then go to *****......She says im not aloud to look at porn and she thinks all i think about is sex...which i do think about sex alot but that is not it....so what im asking was is an ****** worth it??? i have the money to get any type and any ****** im just nervous about doing it and if its worth it....any advice would help.... thx

ps i do love her but the sex is just horrible...i have more fun lookin at porn then having sex with her.....
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Aside from LadyLove's excellent post, you need to understand that if there's something lacking for either one of you in the relationship- TALK!!!!!!!!! No one will benefit from the silence, and then one of you will end up going to a porn message board for advice. Oops! Seriously, talk to her honestly and openly, and make sure she understands where you're coming from.

You think about sex all the time. Know why? You're not getting satisfied by the person who is supposed to be providing you sexual fulfillment. If she takes all this the wrong way, and you end up in a huge fight over it, you may have to consider that this just isn't the one you should be with.

I don't know how old you are, but so rarely do we get the right one on the first try. Hang in there, communicate with her. It's really the best way to go. :thumbsup: And hey, if you're an adult male, no one should be allowed to tell you whether you can look at porn or not.

I hope that ANY of this helps, and that this works out for you. But don't go to an ******. Worse comes to worse, get yourself a new girlfriend.

:2 cents:

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And you know for a fact she doesn't cheat on you. How many thousands and millions of guys were absolutely positive that their partners were not fooling around on them - only to be proved wrong?
The only way you could know for sure is if you were (or had someone) watch her 24 hours a day.
Trust? Trust is for the naive.

And if you fool around on her - and being with an ****** is fooling around on her - then you are weak.

Don't be weak. If you need more sex, clearly explain to her what you want/need. If she does not want to, then clearly explain to her you are going to use an ****** if she doesn't. If she still doesn't (and I assume she won't) then end it and go and get your ****** or better; another girlfriend.
What? This is rocket science?
Just be strong, honest and as considerate as reasonably possible.

Why people stay with people that clearly do not fulfill their needs (whatever they happen to be) is beyond me.
My guess is a fear of being alone. Or low self esteem. Or both.
 
Timbo9627 said:
im 20 and been considering an ******...i do have a gf but we have sex about once 2 twice a month....and when we do have sex its almost pointless...its just boring.no oral, anal, foreplay, no moaing, and always always missionary...and she doesnt cheat on me i know that for a fact.....just take pants off and fuck for 15 mins then go to *****......She says im not aloud to look at porn and she thinks all i think about is sex...which i do think about sex alot but that is not it....so what im asking was is an ****** worth it??? i have the money to get any type and any ****** im just nervous about doing it and if its worth it....any advice would help.... thx

ps i do love her but the sex is just horrible...i have more fun lookin at porn then having sex with her.....
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I **** to give such a stereotypical response, and it will sound nasty;

Get another girlfriend.


Either that or try to fix her.

There are girls out there who enjoy sex, and clearly sex is important to you if you're willing to cheat on your girlfriend to get it. Breaking up with her is a better option than cheating on her. Trust me. If you cheat on her and she finds out, you'll feel like a "bad guy" for a very long time. And even if she doesn't find out, you'll feel guilty.

Plan A) Talk to her, try to help.

Plan B) End the relationship.

Plan Z) Get an ****** on the sly.

I really don't see how plan Z will help at all, but hey it's your life.
 
going to a whore for one time will be exactly that, a one time experience, but you know men, we get horny the day after even if we had sex 10 times the day before.

Does she enjoy the sex? maybe YOU are just not passionate enough so she doesn't get turned on. Women are funny like that, they need you to turn them on while we are turned on by nature. Try being more passionate and do some fore play, make her feel good and then she will moan more, do it more and the entire experience will be better for both of you.

If she doesn't enjoy sex then she is either a lesbian or fucked up in the head (no offense to any of the women on the board) and in that case you need to dump her.


dave_rhino said:
I **** to give such a stereotypical response, and it will sound nasty;

Get another girlfriend.


Either that or try to fix her.

There are girls out there who enjoy sex, and clearly sex is important to you if you're willing to cheat on your girlfriend to get it. Breaking up with her is a better option than cheating on her. Trust me. If you cheat on her and she finds out, you'll feel like a "bad guy" for a very long time. And even if she doesn't find out, you'll feel guilty.

Plan A) Talk to her, try to help.

Plan B) End the relationship.

Plan Z) Get an ****** on the sly.

I really don't see how plan Z will help at all, but hey it's your life.
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****** is more like Plan M. Plan Z would be suicide.
 
Calm said:
If she doesn't enjoy sex then she is either a lesbian or fucked up in the head (no offense to any of the women on the board) and in that case you need to dump her.
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Or maybe she just does not enjoy sex with him.
No offense Timbo9627. Sometimes these things happen. Not everyone is compatible in bed.
 
McRocket said:
Or maybe she just does not enjoy sex with him.
No offense Timbo9627. Sometimes these things happen. Not everyone is compatible in bed.
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Yeah I know. Before I said that part I told him to try to be more passionate and if all his efforts fail than the above might be valid.
 
Getting an ****** is not what you need. You need a more permanent solution to your problem. Dumb her ass, then celebrate with an ******, or two!
 
McRocket said:
Or maybe she just does not enjoy sex with him.
No offense Timbo9627. Sometimes these things happen. Not everyone is compatible in bed.
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Calm said:
Yeah I know. Before I said that part I told him to try to be more passionate and if all his efforts fail than the above might be valid.
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Lets also not forget that some women just are not sexual at all. It might not be him at all. Some women think it a "cold fish" lay there "is it over yet?" type of obligation. Just no interest in sex, it happens.

Like I said in my other post and hedonis said in his, "talk" with her, up front and honest communication is the route to take not cheating. If she loves you like you love her then perhaps she will work at it. If not, you both better rethink it all and a "amicable " breakup is better than a hurtful caught cheating one. A big blowout often leaves scars.

Just more of my :2 cents: Now I've givenyou 4 cents worth ;)

LL
 
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